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My Father.... Story Time..

Discussion in 'Outreach Forum' started by Mindwarp, Mar 4, 2010.

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  1. Mindwarp

    Mindwarp FFH

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    Over There.
    Well my father and I have always had a weird relationship. He wasn't there for a lot of my youth and I guess I never forgave him. We have had some epic battles in the past always going back and forth. on X-Mas Eve he can came over to my mothers house and we were all going to sleep there. Well we all went to a X-Mas party and he came back later then the rest of us about 3 am and drunk as hell started a rukkus. We got into a fight where he actually Punched me in the head and I had to Physically throw him out. I banned him from family events and told him he wasn't alowed to come around. When Mandy found out like a good friend she pestered me for 3 months to forgive him. Anytime I spoke with her, or if the topic of my father came up, she always battled me to forgive him chipping away at my stubbornness. Finally Feb 20th she won that battle and I forgave my father. Fast Forward 2 weeks to yesterday... I get a call at work that my father had a stroke. He can't see and is talking random nonsense, Man that's 2 weeks since I forgave him, if we still were not talking and this happened I don't think I would have forgave myself. I am glad I had a good friend in Mandy who kept on me to get rid of my grudge. Most people took the well you are a grown man and you make your own decisions.

    Family is really all we have in this life and good friends are rare. Sometimes we don't even realize what we have until we lose it or almost lose it all together. Make sure you guys don't take your fam for granted and if you got a grudge kill it and let them know you love them. Thanks to everyone who hit me up on Facebook Last night and Thanks to Mandy for checking up on me last night... I really do appreciate the thoughts and wishes.
     
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  2. Tone_E

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    Hey bro, that is deep. This post, much like many other reminders, makes me once again realize what I take for granted.

    Best wishes for a full recovery for your dad.
     
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  3. Ohiophinphan

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    Best wishes to you. I am very glad you were able to reconcile.

    My Mom died (it will be 18 years ago next Monday) from cancer. She had alienated everyone including me, especially me over the years. In the six months between diagnosis and death she made a point of reconciling with everyone. She died mentally healthier than she had lived and I can remember her with much more of a smile.

    You have been given a gift in the midst of tradgedy. I am glad for that.

    I will remember you and your Dad in my prayers. Keep us informed as to his condition.
     
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  4. Mindwarp

    Mindwarp FFH

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    thanks
     
  5. Big E

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    You always got me on your side bro....great post.
     
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  6. Boik14

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    Im sorry to hear about your fathers misfortune Walt. Im all too familiar with strokes. My father had temporary paralysis on his left side from the stroke and it took him about two years to get it back to 95% which may be as close as he gets considering that was about 5 years ago. I wish the best for your father bro and hope things work out between you guys.
     
  7. FinsPensFan

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    Good post, Mindwarp. My Father and I had a sometime rocky relationship, too. For the last couple of years of his life, we were able to patch things up. He died holding my hand. It is something I will never forget.
     
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  8. Jt0323

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    It took me losing a close friend this past few weeks to realize that. Life is to short
     
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  9. The Rev

    The Rev Totus Tuus Staff Member Administrator Luxury Box Club Member

    Sorry to hear about your father, Walt. You have my prayers.

    I've never had a close relationship to my father, either. I won't hijack this thread with the details, but suffice to say that since my mom died in October we have gotten closer.

    He may be a piece of crap but he's the only father I have. The only parent I have left. I'm glad you forgave your father. I'm working on forgiving mine.

    Thanks for opening up. I know how tough that can be.

    Blessings.
     
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    got my thoughts
     

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