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Discussion in 'Lounge' started by BuckeyeKing, Sep 22, 2010.

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  1. SICK

    SICK Lounge Moderator

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    missing freestyle, kingfelix and motion.....to name a few.
     
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  2. Vendigo

    Vendigo German Gigolo Club Member

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    I feel kinda bad for thread-jacking but since people have asked: I'm going to be right where Alen is. In posting limbo for at least a while.
     
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  3. BuckeyeKing

    BuckeyeKing Wolves DYNASTY!!!!

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    Haven't heard from Motion for awhile. Ever since his Grandpa died. I hope he is doing alright. Felix checks his fantasy leagues.


    Hope all is well at your end.
     
  4. GridIronKing34

    GridIronKing34 Silently Judging You

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    Felix is fine... I shoot him texts now and then... No clue about the other two though.
     
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  5. vmarcilfan75

    vmarcilfan75 blah...blah...blah... Club Member

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    hahahahaha

    ahole! :tantrum: :hi5:
     
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  6. vmarcilfan75

    vmarcilfan75 blah...blah...blah... Club Member

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    just around. mostly just reading the threads :pointlol:
     
  7. finsincebirth

    finsincebirth Well-Known Member

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    Joe left a few years ago, but it had nothing to do with this site. He needed to step away and take time for the real world. Hopefully I will see him this weekend.
     
  8. Kanye West

    Kanye West 'Parcells' Guy

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    Has anyone heard how Alens flight to Brazil was?
     
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  9. Boik14

    Boik14 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    Let him know not to be a stranger. And that unfortunately our Mets still suck :cry:
     
  10. Boik14

    Boik14 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    Motion's alright. Busy with life from what he mentioned a long while back in the Mod forum :wink2:
     
  11. Boik14

    Boik14 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    felix is fine; spoke to him on AIM the other day. From what he mentioned he wanted to get some $$ to rejoin Club but has been to busy to post much. Seen him occasionally though
     
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  12. Clark Kent

    Clark Kent Fighter of the Nightman

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    We missed Motion in the lost thread... Been talking Lost with him for years and he was a no show for the final season. Sucks that he isn't around anymore.
     
  13. ToddsPhins

    ToddsPhins Banned

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    I was getting them all afternoon and ThePhins was the only page I had open. So I cleaned out all my cookies, drank a glass of milk, and it was still there..... roughly about every 2 minutes or so. grrrrrrrrr

    Edit: just saw you fixed it. :wink2: Thanks Muck.
     
  14. ToddsPhins

    ToddsPhins Banned

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    Not.... even.... gonna.... ask.:no:
     
  15. adamprez2003

    adamprez2003 Senior Member

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    congratulations!!!!! you just won!!!!!!!

    [​IMG]
     
  16. NaboCane

    NaboCane Banned

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    Please tell him I said "HI!" and miss him.
     
  17. GreenMonster

    GreenMonster New Member

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    Holy Smokes, I know I don't post as much as, I could, want to, or Alen, but that's a lot of heavy hitters I didn't realize aren't around as much.

    Long Live the Phins Family..
     
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  18. my 2 cents

    my 2 cents Well-Known Member

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    Why is that? Did someone call you a POS, wish you dead or threaten to kill you and tell the mods they do not care what happens to them...... like they did me.........

    I am not sure if it is acceptable to mods for me to share things that really happened or if we are supposed to hide these things and pretend and continue the "family" rhetoric and pretend posters that do such things are actually deterred. But I am sure they will sensor this post if it is not acceptable to reveal things that actually happened.

    I was just curious why you were going to posting limbo?
     
  19. BuckeyeKing

    BuckeyeKing Wolves DYNASTY!!!!

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    Wow what a classes SOB that said that to you :pity:
     
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  20. my 2 cents

    my 2 cents Well-Known Member

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    Well they still post here regularly and told the moderators they did not care if they "were banned or whatever"...and still post inflammatory posts.... so it might happen to you some day.......
     
  21. BuckeyeKing

    BuckeyeKing Wolves DYNASTY!!!!

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    I only a know a few that post so off the wall opinions just to get a rise out of everyone. Still that is awful :no:
     
  22. King Felix

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    :king:
     
  23. Boik14

    Boik14 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    Kinda wish you wouldn't go bro. I've come to enjoy your posts and sarcasm over the last couple of years. :up:

    No one has an agenda for you or dislikes you. I certainly dont. When you post about football related stuff I find myself agreeing with you frequently. But when someone disagrees you get very defensive. And you arent the only one. I got that way with another member or two over the summer and I was wrong for that. What happened with you and the other member should never have happened but you and the other member did your time for it so put it behind you. It shouldnt eat at you forever.

    The family part is not rhetoric. I know many of our members hang out, live near each other, do fantasy leagues and other social activities amongst each other.

    What happened with you and the other member was the fault of both of you and thats the end of it. When you continue with posts like the one below just to get a word in, it reflects poorly on you. Ive had run ins with members before but you put it behind you. When you fight with your friends do you stay mad at them forever? I would hope not. This is part your board and it is whatever you make of it. It can be the best experience you have or it can sound like you are unhappy like your post infers. I have noticed many members will treat you how you treat them. Not every will always agree but it is how you disagree with them.

     
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  24. BuckeyeKing

    BuckeyeKing Wolves DYNASTY!!!!

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    I don't have all the facts and I know debates get heated but threatening someones life is a bit extreme.
     
  25. my 2 cents

    my 2 cents Well-Known Member

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    OK......I disagree, but I do not want to simply fall into "being defensive" and I will view your response with an open mind... how exactly should I take it when someone wished me dead, calls me a piece of ****, and threatens me because that kinda...just kinda sounded like they sorta may not like me.....but again I will have an open mind.....how exactly is that showing any sort of common respect, let alone any sort of "like" for me?

    As for point 2...again do not want to be "defensive"...but what part exactly..... in your opinion .... is THEIR calling me a Piece of ****, wishing me dead, and threatening me ..... my fault,,,,.....cause I got a pretty good memory and I do not remember doing that to ANYONE...EVER.....?

    As for continuing with posts.....the same posters have had posts removed for referencing OLDDDD posts of mine (why is it fair they do it yet I am chastised for it...if I remember correctly you thanked them....) and I am not "trying to get a word in"...there are two ways to look at everything...you call it 'wanting to get a word in and that it reflects badly on me....but is it not also fair for you to view it as openness and therapeutic to discuss issues that happened in order to address how we treat each other and why we lose posters.....

    It is semantics and I realize mods do not want to discuss these things..I understand they want this to go away but if "we"..... are losing members of our "family"..... is it not fair to consider that maybe we are losing them because we do not address the issues and choose to ignore them and pretend they do not exist.....

    I understand what you are saying and I disagree...respectfully... "defensive", assigning me blame that I have yet to comprehend, and framing it as my fault and reflecting badly on me is in my opinion semantics designed to limit the discussion, and not address the root issue is that we are losing members because we do not respect each other and what I consider fact that we view contrarian opinions as argumentative......and respectfully....I think you are doing that in your response....maybe it is "argumentative"...but maybe it is worthy of discussion.....or maybe it will be censored.....

    As Nuke Laloosh said.......sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, and sometimes it rains...........

    I am not always right, but I always have an opinion....sometimes it is contrary to the populist view........if semantically that is argumentative.....then I am guilty...but if I am, then we all are at times.
     
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  26. NaboCane

    NaboCane Banned

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    People are leaving because they want to be part of a community which more closely resembles their own ideology.

    I know that in some specific cases, some people have left because they want to control what other people say, and this site - thankfully - doesn't do that. They generally miss the point of having a place like this, which is to freely exchange thoughts and ideas and opinions; they want a place where everyone ostensibly thinks and posts like they do.

    Until they don't; then they migrate once again in their eternal search for that magical place where everyone agrees with them.

    Or, actually, more specifically: where no one disagrees with them, or at least don't post things disagreeable to them.
     
  27. Boik14

    Boik14 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    Wishing you dead is uncalled for and a horrible thing to do. No one ever questioned that. The person who did it took their medicine also. It was the events leading up to that which were discussed as well and it has been spoken to you about at length.

    As for point two it is the same as point one. This person did not simply call you names and wish you dead at random. I dont agree with his actions either. But why do you think it happened? Do you think your post's views MIGHT have had something to do with it? Do you think it was out of frustration with your post or was it serious? Did the person ever actually follow up with any posts threatening you? There was a reason it happened. I am by no means condoning your actions Ray but you were no angel in that matter. Im not saying your views deserved that kind of response but it could have been avoided on his response and your post if you were more open-minded or if you were more willing to accept other views. You are smart enough to understand what is inflammatory towards others.

    No one avoided the issue. It was discussed over and over and over with you. But it is you who did not like what others had to say and only wanted your views accepted. Like I said before that person said something terrible but your own ignorance is what caused the whole mess. I dont sweep anything under a rug, nor do I want things to just go away...but if you ask for an answer you will get one from me and like you said...its not always going to be the one you want to read/hear.

    I do not simply wish to assign you blame. Im telling you my perspective and the entire staffs perspective of what happened. There are over ten staff members here and not one agreed with you. That isn't to say youre a terrible person or unwelcome but you were flat out wrong...as was the person who said those things. If it was worthy of discussion the discussion the staff had in the staff lounge amongst ourselves would have lasted longer then a few minutes. We have disagreed before about how things should be handled and we take each other suggestions and opinions for what they are worth which is a lot. I have gone to bat for members before who's posts were borderline to offer my two cents (no pun intended) without the other person knowing. If one person had agreed with you we may have even viewed things a bit differently. I know I have had dissenting opinions with other staff members before and we talked it out. Sometimes I was right, others not so much. But not a single person felt your actions were within the TOS so maybe you need to look in the mirror a bit.

    If you aren't trying to get a word in, why are we rehashing old grudges? Alen leaving/vacationing from the site for a bit has nothing to do with policy and everything to do with something that happened entirely unrelated to you.

    We are not losing members...we lost a couple of members. One had a baby and had to deal with life (Motion). Three needed more time to themselves to deal their own situations (L2G, FFIC, Finswin). One was insulted by another poster and which later was worked out. Sometimes people just have stuff more important then a message board.

    Ray, I truly believe you are a good guy, but you were wrong that time. I am sorry you still can not see that and truly wish you would be more accepting as to why the staff felt that way. There is not a single person here I have it in for. There is not a single person here I wouldn't have a drink and watch football with if I met them. Thats the truth. No one has it in for you but when you are wrong, you are wrong and there isnt much to dispute. :hi5:
     
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  28. Pandarilla

    Pandarilla Purist Emeritus

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    Seriously, this place is the most tolerable and least offensive forum that I've found. Plus, it's got some of the most gifted and creative posters. You know, the fans who haven't gone full ******.

    Alen was super knowledgeable, not to mention passionate. I could see how he could get frustrated with forums in general. He will be missed...
     
  29. my 2 cents

    my 2 cents Well-Known Member

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    I truly appreciate your taking the time to review this particular situation as it pertains to me, and I also from a macro perspective personally see doing it publically as again "therapeutic" for the site and much more beneficial for the whole rather than handling it in a closet, but that is just me.
     
  30. Stitches

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    I hate it when I agree with you.

    We need Ted Ginn back. :lol:
     
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  31. VanDolPhan

    VanDolPhan Club member Club Member

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    Good response. I couldn't imagine doing this work for free. When I ran a forum for a gaming company it was a paid job and my god every single person thought I was biased against them. Despite the fact I hadn't played the game since beta and didn't socialize with any of the forum folk there to keep it professional.
     
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  32. NJFINSFAN1

    NJFINSFAN1 Premium Member Luxury Box

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    You mean we don't get paid??????:smackhead:

    Celtkin told me my check was in the mail???? :cry:
     
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  33. NJFINSFAN1

    NJFINSFAN1 Premium Member Luxury Box

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    Tell Joe I said hello, we talked via e-mail a few times after he left.

    Tell him Greg hopes all is well.
     
  34. texasPHINSfan

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    I think if we only came here to talk about the Dolphins, you'd probably have a lot less emotions flying around.

    Sad to see so many take so much personally and get so emotional about some stuff. We're all Dolphin fans. :beer:
     
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  35. Boik14

    Boik14 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    I actually took your check :console:
     
  36. Dolphin1184

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    [ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qKytZ14Yu0E&feature=player_embedded"]YouTube - it waz GOD![/ame]

    Just to lighten up the thread a little bit.
     
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  37. Fin D

    Fin D Sigh

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    Soooooooo, as someone who's never argued with anyone or pissed off anyone, I don't understand this discussion at all.:shifty:
     
  38. ChrisKo

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    BAH! You have no clue WTF you're talking about!!!











    :evil:
     
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  39. Den54

    Den54 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    I just want this place to be where you can openly admit that you were wrong about Jake being better as a RT then a LT because that's what's truly in your heart.:tongue2:
     
  40. Bumrush

    Bumrush Stable Genius Club Member

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    I've often thought about leaving too.. Not because I have beef with anyone here, as a matter of fact this is the best online community I have been a part of.. And I go way back to the alt.3dfx / alt.quake boards, which had some of the smartest posters ever..

    It's really about taking stock of you life and priorities.. When a forum takes up a significant amount of time and keeps you away from your family, you really have to think hard about how much time you are spending online.. For me, I've decided to cutback.. But I don't see myself leaving this place anytime soon as I think it's the perfect balance between debate and friendship.
     
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