Crabby girlfriend is driving me nuts. She's *****y, stressed, ignoring me then demanding my attnetion alternately, etc Steering clear of her hasn;t worked as she gets resentful that I don;t want to spend time with her. Spending time results in her disrespecting me and/or starting arguments. So... I'm looking for a new approach. What do you guys do when your significant other is in a crabby, crappy mood? (Advice from successfully married men especially needed. lol.)
Buy crabs for dinner, eat them all. Then hire a lady of the night, get more crabs, and offer your girlfriend those. She'll stop bein so crabby. ... or just ask her what's wrong (something obviously bothering her), offer to listen and if she doesn't want to talk about it, ask her if she would prefer to have some personal time, and let her think it's her decision for you to steer clear, so she doesn't worry about you avoiding her.
These are genius, devious solutions. Are you sure you're not a woman? I actually went and 'was there for her' by standing with her and looking in her eyes (kinda as per Killer's instructions). Eventually she told me she's anxious about seeing her family for Thanksgiving (shoulda guessed). Now I'm doing the 'giving her space' routine. Someone should program an entire computer program that can run these things as sub-routines based on "if" statements.
You get used to it, thats what you do. Then you ask yourself, does she have enough value otherwise, to stick with her...or should you find someone else with different/better qualities, while anticipating the same level of irrational horse ****. thats. what. you. do.
i saw a woman in the mall the other day with a black eye and the first thing that came to mind was.. "well, she doesn't listen."
You live your life in quite desperation like the rest of us, knowing that you'll die of cancer from it or hopefully a massive coranary in the middle of the night.
Go out or turn the volume on the TV up....however I've since learned that this doesn't help so I've taught myself to look as though I care and ask what's up and then sound as though I agree or sympathize until the point where my opinion is wanted and I tell her what she wants to hear.
I always remind my wife not to take out her frustrations on me. Remind her that I'm here to support her and not the cause of the incident. She does the same for me.
I was going to try and think of a quip like some of the others did, but since you seem to be serious... When she gets like that, look at her....seriously, firmly, yet not belittling ask her, "what do you want?". Get her to get whatever's bugging her off her chest. One of the things my wife used to say to me sometimes when I came home after a bad day at work was something to the effect of, "yea, you may have had a bad day at work, but we didn't do anything to you. You leave that crap at work when you come home. I/we don't deserve to be treated like that" Lastly, remember that women are creatures of "feelings"...they feel everything. Alot of times, if your girlfriend is complaining about this that or the other...if you just listen (or do a damned good job of pretending to listen) and not offer solutions, she'll love you that much more. Been married for 24 years. Take it for what it's worth. If all else fails...get a Harley.
Well BPK, what I've found is women sort of don't address what is bothering them when they get crabby, it is sort of "I have a headache" but the real problem is someone or something else is causing the problem like a coworker got the promotion they wanted, or a friend screwed them over for a reason you may not understand, and they don't think you will understand so they do not come out and say it, if you listen closely they sort of mention it in an abstract way. So just say "shut up, and make me a sammich"
Just explain to her that whatever problems she has cannot possibly be as bad as the stress and responsibilities that you bear every day because you're a man. Then tell her that she doesn't see you going around acting like a huge ***** to everyone. That should do the trick...
Don't put up with her ****, and don't lose your cool. You show her you're not okay with this situation implicitly... Have her "catch you" flirting or getting moderately close to another (preferably more attractive). She'll treat you like a king thereafter. This implication of other options is your best friend and she'll have learned a lesson. ...or you could punch her
does this happen once a month? Seriously, that is likely to be the root cause of all evilness that she is displaying towards you. If this is a serious relationship and it's not her period then you are going thru the "game/test" phase, where each side tests the other before committment. Once you get married and have kids all of that stuff goes away. Instead, you argue for five or ten minutes and then enjoy makeup sex that lasts for much shorter time than the arguement. And you forget what you were even arguing about.
Go out to a strip joint immediately, and spend alot of money. Take advantage of her being upset and double down. This will eat up her rage quota for the week.
Well, my wife is the anomaly among women, she isn't a needy, bipolar chick. We each have our own personal time, and we have together time. But when fights happen, I usually go play a game of NCAA and talk after I am done. Usually cooler heads prevail. However, in your situation, if I were in your shoes, I would be completely honest, sit her down and say cut the **** and tell me what's up. Lay out your side of things and give her opportunity to speak her piece. Stick to the facts, and don't throw anything back in her face. If you can't come to some agreement, it's time to part ways. If all else fails, stick it in her butt, chicks like that kind of thing....I kid... Just remember, all women operate differently and there is zero rhyme or reason to it. Just remember, it is all about trying to find a tolerable amount of crazy
Jerk off publically, in the middle of the living room, no clothes around, just butt-naked, no tissues around either, no porn, no tv on, just keep your eyes real wide open, when she walks in, stare her in the eyes and finish. You're welcome.
I've been married 10 years (I'll ignore my first marriage which lasted 18 months). reinforcing what someone else mentioned. Sit her down and demand that she tell you what is bothering her so much. -if it's not about you, talking to you may help alleviate her grumpiness. -if it is about you, being a girl, she will hold it against you until you resolve it, but it won't happen until you get her to blurt it out. when my wife gets like that, I confront her. either tell me what the hell is bothering you or stop being so damn crabby. works every time. of course, sometimes you have to apologize for something even though it's not your fault. it's better than living with Queen Crab.