Okay, assuming you were dating to find a gf, not just get laid, what quality of a woman's would most make you notice her and want to date her? Conversely, what trait could she have that would ruin her chances with you? (let the bj jokes commence)
um......what would make her stand out to you? Because what I look for in a woman and what you look for in a woman are more than likely completely different.
1) Keeps a clean house and knows how to cook. At least keeps a clean house. That is paramount for me! 2) Has to be attractive. If she's semi-semi, she better have some serious potential... 3) She can't be a total *****. This is where she can be semi-*****y, but not total *****. Hope that helped.
Independence: They are at the bar and not being a wallflower while waiting on their friends, i.e. talking to people, not looking lost.
Single women are different depending on the age. The older you get the more they want that money. Materialism turns me off immediately, and independent, open minded women are the best to me. I don't want somebody that's going to cater to my every need because I'm going to pay their bills. That's just shameful on their part to allow that to happen. Find somebody that can speak their mind, and will do things for you because they love you, not because they think it's their responsibility.
But, those older women are usually SO MUCH better in bed... Also, a lot of those older divorced women have a lot of money tucked away. And they don't tell and don't smell.
Right... like they can take care of their own happiness and not sit there like a house plant. Good sign.
Right! Otherwise it smells of desperation if they're hoping for financial security and are willing to 'be' whoever you want them to be to make that happen. But if a chick is being herself, what kind of gal attracts you?
NO pretention. No fakeness. Good smile and friendly. If you don't have that, then you don't want to wake up next to them in the morning. ....and oh yeah... big boobies.
An anus capable of taking in something about the girth of a cucumber. A mouth that can suck a golf ball out of a garden hose. A sense of humor.
Not to give away trade secrets, but you can figure out everything about a woman with 3 simple observations: 1. Walking speed 2. Nail length/color 3. A lie detector/truth serum/ and this thing for when you interrogate ex-boyfriends:
-Shared interests or fun ways of looking at things -Stupidity, no time for it, do not care how she looks. A good idea is to listen about how she speaks about ex BF's, if she does so at all, then consider she will more than likely talk poorly about you if things do not work out.
Dating isn't like finding a car or a smartphone. There's no real traits or things to look for that are demonstrably better than others other than the obvious ones (like say no if she's a murderer). Using lists when looking for a mate are pointless and actually counterproductive if the end result desired is happiness. Finding the right someone is an organic process and can't really be broken down into pros and cons. Anyone who tells you different is wrong or a magazine trying to sell you something. Just remember going forward that sex is part of the whole. I see a lot of people have great sex with someone and call that love, even though everything else about their relationship sucks. in the end, if you're happy and you aren't consistently hurting others then you're doing it right. If you aren't, then find what makes you happy and stop hurting people...it really is that simple.
First impression (what I judge the first post to be asking)....eyes and smile. Good ones are intoxicating and differentiating. Turnoffs -- smoking. That's 3 strikes if we're talking more than just fun.
One of the things that really turned me on to my fiance when I first met her was that she was probably the most sincere and genuine person I had ever met. Another big thing for me, and should be for you, is a sense of humor. We all have our own styles of humor, and mine tends to be stupid. You want a girl who can laugh at your corny jokes.
I wonder if they realize that THEY picked the guy out they are slamming? For me, I suspect the reason why they do that stuff is they want affirmation that they made the right choice in dumping the ex, which tells me they still have issues over it and really should not be messed with unless one just thinks they are worth the effort. Believe me when I say the subject will come up again sooner or later and it grows very tiresome.
lol at this thread....you bunch of Dr. Ruth's... What do I look for.....a hole and a heartbeat........
They are all isolated scenarios if you ask me, its all about the connection. You cant put a label on anything like that, Ive learned to not press the issue and let nature take it's course. I sometimes WANT to be in a relationship badly wich leads to me forcing the hand and regretting it down the road. It's like a rookie QB you cant get trigger happy and throw an interception trying to force the ball to your WR, you simply dropback......go over your proggressions and fire the completion. If you dont get "sacked" 1st.
The V is important, bro. good point. Yeah, I got your text and been meaning to call you. Thanks for getting back (esp. w/ what was goin' on at the time)
