well the way he put it, she doesn't care about him either, she knows he is a die hard dolphins fan, the original plan was that daddy picks her up
Thanks for all the input from everyone. I'm going to watch the first hour. Then pause the game and go get her. When I get back ill be able to skip through commercials and halftime. I'll probably be able to catch up to the live action before the end of the game. And no, I'm not gonna stop to have sex with her while her mom is here. - you're welcome
This. It isn't even about the Dolphins or football. Every relationship has sticking points. Those certain things a significant other must comply with or else you can't be in a relationship with that person. Everyone has them and nothing good ever comes from allowing a gf to violate that social contract. It's relationship 101.
Thanks. Unfortunately that's what she's trying to do- manipulate him..... and he should call her on it and perhaps even reverse it. "If you really care about me you wouldn't be trying to manipulate me right me right, and I won't stand for it. Don't ever do it again, do you understand me."
That's right, it was you not Gish who had the problem with the GF last year, her wanting you to miss the game to have dinner with the parents? We should bump that post and reflect upon it. Maybe you can speak in hindsight about what the good or bad advice was in the thread? That'd be fun, no?
I don't consider missing part of a football game strong arming. If I had a GF who loved some weird TV show/contest/whatever, I'd definitely expect her to miss it. People should take priority over a game if they are important in our lives IMO. He won't even miss the whole game, most likely not even the end.
Hillarious So uhm, you do realize what women do when they come in from being away for awhile? This is not picking up and dropping off a package then going on your merry way..oh...no..they want to "reconnect". Best thing to do is give the mom/daughter something to do to distract them when they walk in the door..otherwise..prepare your anus for all sorts of stories, impressions of where she was, talk of the best coffee etc etc Now one can use a "Stop" by saying some crazy ish like "..look I bet my weeks' pay on this game, pardon me if the best coffee in BFE is secondary atm..." Few men have the sack to do that tho.
Let's just agree to disagree. I would never ask a woman to miss something she cared heavily about just so I could selfishly meet her at the airport rather than wait an extra 20 minutes and do it at home, especially when you can't really "greet" a person off a plane anymore IIRC. She's gonna be at baggage claim when she meets him, steps away from the parking lot where her car would be sitting. Nor would I put her in the position to choose me or the other thing over such a trivial issue. That's immature, manipulative, dramatic, and selfish. Why do you feel he should miss the game? What is it accomplishing?
And THAT is how it works. Men are expected to cave to her wishes, when at the end of the day, she is not there long term. Difference here from my pov is her moms is involved and she is ill, and there are plenty of games left. Still and all for me, this would become a issue that SHE would have to deal with otherwise prepare yourself for her to expect YOU to subjugate yourself all the damn time. Oh hell no.
Exactly, she's gonna be yapping his ear off. Best to put her and mom up in an airport hotel for the night so he can enjoy the game in peace..... then in the morning have her go back to the airport with all her luggage and they can pretend she's returning from her trip for the first time.
I haven't read through the thread, but if you have NFL Mobile on your phone, you won't have to miss the game...though it might hinder your driving abilities.
Gish's gf is going to pissed at him for trying to duck out on her as he tries drops her off. "We haven't seen eachother in X days, and you just want to watch football. Fine go. Whatever." After repeated whining, Gish is emotionally blackmailed into staying and hanging out. It will be an uncomfortable night because Gish doesn't want to be there and she knows it. Staying just them both miserable. Gish goes home and his DVR didn't record the game and he misses another Marinohill 4th quarter comeback. Instead of reading all the celebratory "Miami is your new AFC overlords 4-0" threads that spawn from epic win, he's going to post about how terrible his night was and should of just stayed home because she ended up mad at him anyway. Calling it now. Wizard status!
Why does this sound familiar? Yeah I fully remember now. Dude you gotta link it so we can see if the people in this thread suggesting that Gish sacrifice himself to meet his GF at the airport are some of the same people who advised you to miss the game for daddy's walk in order to make your GF happy. A GF/wife actively asking her man to sacrifice something important to him for her own self-interest is entirely different than being a generally supportive BF/husband. For some reason people don't understand this distinction. For some reason some people here think you or Gish would be the bad BF for rejecting her, when in reality it's HER who's the bad GF for putting you in that compromising situation in the first place and then manipulating you into choosing her or the game. If something is important to your partner, you don't put them in a position that forces them to compromise their self. It's not fair to them, and it's not conducive to a healthy relationship b/c it always creates disdain & tension that over time turn to feelings of grudge as you likely well know.
are you kidding? That was the first thing I noticed... All bets off with potential mother in law around. Also find it hilaaaaaaarious that certain opinions in this thread are clearly driven by guys who are not married nor have a girl friend.
Good one. Yeah, I could see picking her up at the airport not being good enough to pacify her need for attention to where she feels like any attempt by Gish to not want to listen to her reminisce for 3 hours about her trip would be yet another example of him "choosing football over her". Some of us have been there before to know it's most often a never ending cycle. Regarding the DVR part of your post, maybe it's a longer than normal game or goes to overtime, so right as he's nearing the end of the 4th quarter and about to witness yet another dramatic last-minute win, poof--- the DVR shuts off.
Take this opportunity and run with it. Make sure you remind her, multiple times, how important the game is and how you are inconveniencing yourself and taking enjoyment from your life to help her, make sure you remind her (in a stealth way) how this act shows how much you care about her. Bank this one, it might come in handy down the road. I'm glad I don't have your issue. My (now) wife knew how much this team mattered to me within a week of our relationship starting and she does nothing to come between me and this team. She also absolutely loves hockey. The only sports debates I have in my house is how much the Leafs suck.
You should of thought of dropping her car off first but ya she sounds like a ***** if she can't drive 5 mins and needs to be chauffeured.
Also if I had a dollar for every time I've heard a woman try the, "you're choosing _____ over me" line.. lol They love that one.
I didn't post in that thread.. therefore it didn't happen... But that ******* Toddsphins did.. whatever happened to him?
It seems Gish is a "do as a I say, not as I do" kinda guy. [his response in your thread] So knowing what you know now, would you DVR the game like some are suggesting... or would you watch it live, knowing that you're watching it live and in the moment?
I'm saying I'm married for 10 years now, and I haven't missed a Dolphins game since getting married. Except for the cruise a couple of years ago, but that was very much voluntary and it was late enough in the season to not care about because we were out of contention. (not week 3... ) She knows what is important. Her family knows what is important. It's a give and take though. Her mostly giving She's a good woman... for all the **** she has to put up with from me. But I am the one working and paying the bills. It's a balancing act. work work work... work work work... hello boys, did you miss me?
you mean like, after he eventually breaks up with her b/c she continues with the "football or me" stuff, that he can still ask for sex? IMO, unless you're married or plan on getting married, there is no "down the road". It's only what's in the now, and in the now, no one should sacrifice themselves for a trivial reason. As far as significant events go, missing part of a big Monday night game is not a fair and equal trade-off for meeting a GF at baggage claim rather than 20 minutes later at home. Now, if she were LEAVING for an extended time rather than arriving, then she might have a leg to stand on.
.... would be the most ideal way to handle this so that she can get his undivided attention during dinner, while the Dolphins game can get his undivided attention Monday. DVR'ing the game isn't a compromise; it's a win for her [b/c of her throwing out the manipulative me or football crap]. He's gonna need that DVR in the future now that she knows she got him to cave and that he's displayed it's a viable option in order to meet her selfish needs.
I was under the impression he had to drive the mom home first which was 45 mins away, then come back home with his girl..he won't miss that much if he's just picking them up and coming back..
re reading the original post... thinking this is like an episode of Seinfeld and Gish is George (with one of his girlfriend/fiancees...)... the question is, how did she GET to the airport? That is the ultimate question here... Did George, I mean Gish, originally drop her and her mom OFF at the airport? Did the father drop them off there? Because how they got there should be how they get back. It's ultimate reciprocation. You don't plan a trip to the airport and then change how you are going to be picked up. Now you are doing here a favor if you didn't originally drop her off...