1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

Tired of being judged negatively everywhere I go.

Discussion in 'Questions and Answers' started by Jeffrey, Oct 21, 2009.

Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.
  1. slickj101

    slickj101 Is Water

    15,886
    8,901
    113
    Dec 21, 2007
    NY
    So you're being picked on by the same group of people?
     
  2. phinnhedd

    phinnhedd Reality.

    3,097
    1,212
    113
    Oct 10, 2008
    Port Saint Lucie, FL
    I don't know if Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is what's causing your social discomfort, as I'm no therapist, but is it possible to have both?
     
  3. Jeffrey

    Jeffrey Banned

    1,358
    234
    0
    Oct 8, 2009
    I'm questioning your intent right now. And Phin, I have a degree in psychology.
     
  4. phinnhedd

    phinnhedd Reality.

    3,097
    1,212
    113
    Oct 10, 2008
    Port Saint Lucie, FL
    The thing is if someone is talking negatively towards you, why the need to feel like you have to get back at them somehow? Talk is cheap. The world is too big, there are too many people and everyone is not going to like you. It's just how the world is.
     
  5. Jeffrey

    Jeffrey Banned

    1,358
    234
    0
    Oct 8, 2009
    Because I did absolutely NOTHING to this person.
     
  6. phinnhedd

    phinnhedd Reality.

    3,097
    1,212
    113
    Oct 10, 2008
    Port Saint Lucie, FL
    That's good and all, but do you have a practice? Unless you've a doctorate in psychology and practice that is pretty moot. I know people with degrees in psychology and they don't work in the field at all.

    You're seeking answers here right? You're fighting everyone in the thread. It's almost at a point where it's just looking like you want the attention and not the help. So if you want to discuss the issue at hand and not rebut everything everyone says, then that we can do. If you keep fighting, then I don't know where to go with this.
     
    SICK likes this.
  7. SICK

    SICK Lounge Moderator

    72,658
    35,312
    113
    Nov 29, 2007
    Charlotte NC
    then continue doing nothing, ignore them.....dont even give them the time of day.....cause thats exactly what they want :up:
     
    Jeffrey likes this.
  8. Jeffrey

    Jeffrey Banned

    1,358
    234
    0
    Oct 8, 2009
    I'm fighting everyone in the thread? Um, no I'm not. But I feel like you just attacked me by basically saying that the fact that I have a degree in psychology means nothing. I'm not fighting. I'm speaking my mind. I'm not attacking anyone. But thanks for insulting me.
     
  9. Jeffrey

    Jeffrey Banned

    1,358
    234
    0
    Oct 8, 2009
    I'm going out for a while. I'll see you guys later. Have a nice evening.
     
  10. HardKoreXXX

    HardKoreXXX Insensitive to the Touch

    20,459
    14,210
    113
    Apr 2, 2008
    Coral Springs, FL
    Jeffrey, are you currently on any medication?

    EDIT: This post isn't meant as a joke BTW. I ask only because you say you've seen alot of therapists and had/have PTSD.
     
    SICK likes this.
  11. Jeffrey

    Jeffrey Banned

    1,358
    234
    0
    Oct 8, 2009
    No I'm not. And I don't know why SICK thanked you for that comment either.
     
  12. unluckyluciano

    unluckyluciano For My Hero JetsSuck

    53,333
    23,006
    0
    Dec 7, 2007
    no reason to get angry bro, no ones laughing at you. Yes we screw around but it isn't meant to disrespect you, in fact its probably done with little thought about you. Take a deep breath bro, its all love.
     
  13. HardKoreXXX

    HardKoreXXX Insensitive to the Touch

    20,459
    14,210
    113
    Apr 2, 2008
    Coral Springs, FL
    No problem. I edited to add that I wasn't joking.

    Do you have bouts of depression?

    EDIT: I just read your other thread in the Outreach Forum. Terribly sorry. Can't imagine what that feels like and can't comprehend your emotions.
     
    Celtkin likes this.
  14. slickj101

    slickj101 Is Water

    15,886
    8,901
    113
    Dec 21, 2007
    NY
    As I'm questioning yours.
     
  15. SICK

    SICK Lounge Moderator

    72,658
    35,312
    113
    Nov 29, 2007
    Charlotte NC
    i thanked him because i was gunna ask if you were as well....there could be side-effects involved etc etc

    chill bro, no ones after you...
     
    Celtkin likes this.
  16. bigbry

    bigbry Huge Member

    5,278
    3,071
    0
    Dec 18, 2008
    Colorado
    Just roll man. Some people aren't worth any effort whatsoever. I try to practice respect for everyone , but....... that's another thing easier said then done.
    Another, is "balance" in everything. Too much confrontation for whatever reason will tip us out of balance and leave us missing something important.
     
  17. like2god

    like2god Typical white person Luxury Box

    19,529
    9,219
    113
    Nov 22, 2007
    CNY
    Posting anonymously to take jabs is not what the feature was intended for. If it's going to be abused, the staff may consider getting rid of it.
     
  18. SICK

    SICK Lounge Moderator

    72,658
    35,312
    113
    Nov 29, 2007
    Charlotte NC
    good luck jeffrey!
     
    alen1 likes this.
  19. BuckeyeKing

    BuckeyeKing Wolves DYNASTY!!!!

    25,411
    5,743
    113
    Dec 6, 2007
    People judge each other on anything and everything. There is no way to escape good or bad judgment from people its how you deal with it. Its tough to take barbs from people you don't even know I'm sure everyone has at least one experience with this. You can't please everyone by what you do its just not possible. Just try and ignore it but if you feel the need to confront make sure you know for a fact someone has a problem with you and just confront them on that.
     
  20. HolliFinFan

    HolliFinFan Not a Face Painter Luxury Box

    2,220
    1,480
    113
    Nov 24, 2007
    South Florida
    Hi Jeffrey. I know that most say that they don't care what others' think, and this is generally a good practice, yet it negates the fact that at times in our lives we are unsure of ourselves, our future, etc. This can manifest in reactions to others--like the loser in the bar. I would encourage you to continue to develop your positive endeavors and talents--from this comes the confidence to brush off negativity and deduce if it's warranted or a time for self-reflection. Best wishes to you. :hi5:
     
    Celtkin, Jeffrey, Boik14 and 4 others like this.
  21. slickj101

    slickj101 Is Water

    15,886
    8,901
    113
    Dec 21, 2007
    NY
    Or just KO the next person who looks at you funny. :up:
     
  22. HolliFinFan

    HolliFinFan Not a Face Painter Luxury Box

    2,220
    1,480
    113
    Nov 24, 2007
    South Florida
    With my size, this is not an option. That said, bullies usually back down when challenged. Not always. Not taking that chance. I'd simply rather be smarter :up: I also think it's unwise to approach situations with the assumption that others have the same gauge of fairness as a parameter. But that's just me ;-)
     
    opfinistic and dolphindebby like this.
  23. slickj101

    slickj101 Is Water

    15,886
    8,901
    113
    Dec 21, 2007
    NY
    [​IMG]
     
  24. HolliFinFan

    HolliFinFan Not a Face Painter Luxury Box

    2,220
    1,480
    113
    Nov 24, 2007
    South Florida
    Hello "Casey at the Bat." We all know how that ended. No joy in Mudville.
     
    azfinfanmang likes this.
  25. slickj101

    slickj101 Is Water

    15,886
    8,901
    113
    Dec 21, 2007
    NY
    lol There's also a fine line between, "standing up to harassment" and "looking for a fight."
     
  26. HolliFinFan

    HolliFinFan Not a Face Painter Luxury Box

    2,220
    1,480
    113
    Nov 24, 2007
    South Florida
    I don't think walking away or more importantly ignoring an a-hole is viewed as not standing up. As a matter of fact, I think it shows confidence. Keep in mind that this was some anonymous person in an unfamiliar bar. But you go on with your bat (exemplifies not fighting fairly and another reason to avoid belligerent strangers.) :knucks:
     
    Jeffrey likes this.
  27. slickj101

    slickj101 Is Water

    15,886
    8,901
    113
    Dec 21, 2007
    NY
    Walking away isn't an option the majority of the time. Well it is, if you prefer getting punched in the back of the head instead of the front lol

    Seriously though, if someone is really harassing you, you never know if they're crazy enough to try to take a swing. Especially in a place like a bar. If you want to avoid problems, you need to be careful.

    I wouldn't sit there being disrespected either.
     
  28. HolliFinFan

    HolliFinFan Not a Face Painter Luxury Box

    2,220
    1,480
    113
    Nov 24, 2007
    South Florida
    I was addressing the post in the thread. It was a passive harrassment. We obviously have different life experiences. So let's just agree to disagree. :up:
     
    Jeffrey and slickj101 like this.
  29. slickj101

    slickj101 Is Water

    15,886
    8,901
    113
    Dec 21, 2007
    NY
    :up: No prob. I would just say be on guard with any kind of harassment in a place like a bar. Things can get ugly quick anywhere there's morons and alcohol.
     
  30. Big E

    Big E Plus sized porn star

    31,885
    8,682
    113
    Nov 29, 2007
    Bloomington, IN.
    I;m short, I'm fat, I wear glasses, I have a receding hair line, I have bad grammer, I am a terrible radio co host.....


    Trust me I get picked on some....you have to roll with the punches man. Most people that make fun of you or try to get a rise out of you do so to take away from there own insecurities man. It happens, you explode they win.
     
  31. Jeffrey

    Jeffrey Banned

    1,358
    234
    0
    Oct 8, 2009
    Are you kidding me?

    ps. I want to know who posted anonymously and what was said. Thanks. On a side note, I went to the bar and saw said person. I was having a nice conversation with an older couple and I noticed him out of the corner of my eye. I barely even looked at him and proceeded to finish the good conversation I had. He is gone from my memory.
     
    SICK likes this.
  32. slickj101

    slickj101 Is Water

    15,886
    8,901
    113
    Dec 21, 2007
    NY
    No. I responded to that first post with, "are you being bullied by the same group of people?" and you questioned intent?

    You're asking for help while giving very little info and you're going to question my intent bc I ask a question? Yea, I'd say that doesn't make sense.


    To answer your question, someone insinuated you should come out of the closet. To answer your next question, no, it wasn't me who posted that.
     
  33. Jeffrey

    Jeffrey Banned

    1,358
    234
    0
    Oct 8, 2009
    You know what. I'm done.

    ps If the coward who called me gay wants to come forward and say who they are, I'd be happy for you.
     
  34. BuckeyeKing

    BuckeyeKing Wolves DYNASTY!!!!

    25,411
    5,743
    113
    Dec 6, 2007
    Best answer right here.


    I'm sorry but I have to speak out its very disrespectful to turn a Question and answer thread and turn it into another bull**** hijacked topic. Thats what the lounge is for so keep your bull**** spam in there. If you don't have anything constructive to say in this topic then don't post its really that simple.
     
    Jeffrey likes this.
  35. Celtkin

    Celtkin <B>Webmaster</b> Luxury Box

    20,213
    11,565
    113
    Nov 22, 2007
    46.73° N, 117.00° W
    I agree.
     
    BuckeyeKing and Jeffrey like this.
  36. Phinvader Bill

    Phinvader Bill The all new Mr. Event

    2,207
    1,387
    0
    May 1, 2009
    Columbia, SC
    This may work...If its the same group of people every time you go to a certain bar, don't say anything to them. Just buy their table a round and tell the bartender to make sure they know it was you who bought the drinks. Then wait and see if they approach you with a changed attitude. If they do, then great. If not, the next time you go there, say hi/how's it going? to them. If they are positive, great. strike up a conversation. If they are still jerks after that, they are just jerks and not worth your time.
     
  37. Jeffrey

    Jeffrey Banned

    1,358
    234
    0
    Oct 8, 2009
    To the person who said I need to come out of the closet.....why don't you come out from hiding and own up to what you said? Like I previously said, there always has to be one person....
     
  38. GridIronKing34

    GridIronKing34 Silently Judging You

    23,388
    16,296
    113
    Nov 22, 2007
    Denver, CO
    I think you need to just let some things go, man... You gotta have that "who cares" type of attitude like E mentioned earlier.
     
  39. Jeffrey

    Jeffrey Banned

    1,358
    234
    0
    Oct 8, 2009
    I guess I need to be like some people on this board who have the same attitude that you mentioned.
     
  40. opfinistic

    opfinistic Braaaaains!

    30,659
    14,683
    0
    Dec 7, 2007
    Peeking in Nabo's Basement
    That was me messing with you. Don't take it so personal, I have a twisted sense of humor. :wink2:
     
Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.

Share This Page