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Tired of being judged negatively everywhere I go.

Discussion in 'Questions and Answers' started by Jeffrey, Oct 21, 2009.

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  1. Jeffrey

    Jeffrey Banned

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    Why did you post it anonymously? If you had said it with your regular user name I would have known you were joking.
     
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  2. opfinistic

    opfinistic Braaaaains!

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    I was in an ornery mood fueled by a little reefer.
     
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  3. Jeffrey

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    Reefer madness.
     
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  4. dolphindebby

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    What are we going to do with you op? :no:
    YOU in a ornery mood? I would never have believed it.:wink2:
     
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  5. opfinistic

    opfinistic Braaaaains!

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    My wife left me last night. What can I say.

    She took a nine day trip to NY for her Mother's 90th B-day.
     
  6. Jeffrey

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    Seriously? Sorry to hear that. Smoke it up man....
     
  7. opfinistic

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    She'll be back next Thursday.
     
  8. dolphindebby

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    BOY! One of these days.:nono:

    She probably needs a vacation from all your hi jinx.




    It's a good thing I love ya op. It's probably because your only 5 and your so sweet, MOST of the time. :wink2:

    Sorry if I'm ruining your rep here. It's all good.:yes:
     
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  9. opfinistic

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    She got mad at me because I was smiling at the airport. I love her to death, but 9 days wife free is pure gold, especially since I'm working out of the house for that duration. I can eat what I want, watch whatever I want, sleep when and where I want, I feel like a bear!
     
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  10. dolphindebby

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    Well, enjoy your vacation then. BUT not to much.
    She'll be back ya know...:wink2:
     
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  11. opfinistic

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    No worries, I fear her as well, she's little, but mean a rattlesnake with a broken back. I'll be good. :halo:
     
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  12. azfinfanmang

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    Does that mean you can crap in the woods if you want too?
     
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  13. opfinistic

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  14. Jeffrey

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    Lock this thread also why you're at it. Thanks to everyone who helped giving me some words of wisdom. You know who you are. I appreciate it.
     
  15. Phinvader Bill

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    Time to go to El Paso!! ;)
     
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  16. ToddsPhins

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    Jeffrey, please take heed to my words without losing your cool. Can you do that? Nod your head yes, please.... and commit right now that you're mind will be objective the next few minutes or just stop reading this or any comments. Ok? My words might seem harsh but they're the truth and the truth can hurt.

    1. Either you're a confrontation addict or you're subconsciously preparing yourself to face a confrontation around every corner so that you've actually created a self-fulfilling prophecy. You're expecting or preparing for the worst, therefore it will happen.

    2. Quit playing the victem. With a psychology background you know that you control your mind.

    If you don't like these confrontations then either find a new bar or stop allowing yourself to get upset. It's that simple. Absolutely NO ONE on this planet can upset you without out your consent....meaning- you're allowing it to happen. If you don't like it, then stop allowing it.

    I'm on an iPhone that keeps blacking out, so I might have to have to break this up in parts...so bear with me.
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  17. Samphin

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    Don't forget that you can also sleep with WHOEVER you want!


    what?
     
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  18. phinnhedd

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    I was going to post this in Jeffrey's "My Family's Story" thread, but that started running into some issues and consequently was locked/closed.

    Some people were implying that he was lying so I did a little digging using google, just using his name and places that were stated where he was living. Came up with this link here. Indeed the man is telling the truth or both him and his father are putting on a good show (which I doubt.)

    If you go down on the page you will see the name David Pease and Brian Pease and a link to the right. I suggest if you think he's lying click on segment 1. They tell their story to a broadcast station on air. Seems pretty legit to me.

    The link is under 3/21/2006's show

    again click HERE
     
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    I actually enjoy your thoughts on the radio Eric. Always have enjoyed them on the forums and the radio. Btw, you're a damn good person to me so I have no interest in how you look, even though I know this post wasn't directed this way. :up:

    I agree and I do take some blame for posting a joke in this thread. I shouldn't have, even though I directed it at Opie. My apologies Jeffrey.
     
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  20. ToddsPhins

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    This might help you relate:

    Let's say 2 people of equal size and ability get into a fight. What's the easiest way to defeat your opponent? To rile them up and get then to lose their cool, right? The one who let's emotion get involved loses. They even teach you this is self-defense classes.

    Your situation is no different. Only instead of being a battle of the fists, it's a battle of the minds. So think of it as a competition. If you allow your emotions to get the best of you, then you allow the other person to win.... and when this happens you NEED to get more upset at yourself for losing your cool than you do at the person whom you feel is trying to "get at you". They don't control your mind and feelings. Only you do. You can't blame anyone else.... you have to accept responsibility for every action or feeling you have. There's not a little man in your head controlling your feelings, right.

    You might think it's a display of strength to voice your opinion to these people, but it's not. The real show us strength is having the ability to ignore them and not allow your emotions to get the best of you. Some of these people live to make others miserable. If they see they've riled you up, then they win! They accomplished their goal. By addressing them you're only showing them that they succeeded....and they'll keep pushing your buttons as long as you keep the confrontation going bc it's only giving them more joy. By ignoring these people and keeping your cool, you're preventing these shmucks from their sense of accomplishment.... and they're the ones whose mood becomes negative as they realize their attempt to piss you off is failing.

    Just as you need to be disappointed in yourself for allowing someone to upset you, you also need to be proud of yourself and reward yourself every time you don't give into them.... hence you need to classically condition yourself to this new behavior. Give yourself a pat on the back. Saying under your breath that you're proud of yourself will go a long way.

    Put a rubber band on your wrist and pop it every time you catch yourself falling into the trap..... while telling yourself that "no one can offend me or change my mood without my permission. "Who the hell is his person to me that I'm going to allow them to screw up my mood.". Stop preparing yourself for confrontation, and you'll stop seeing it less and less.

    I live by this code (among others), and I can't remember the last time I was offended by anyone or had someone try to offend me.... and I watch games the bar(s) all the time. Take some time for some deep introspection and stop looking outward.... as all the answers are inside. Good luck brother. :knucks:
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  21. ToddsPhins

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    Jeffrey. 1 of your answers lies within your title of this thread "tired of people judging you negatively every where". Not everyone in the world is going to like you, and if they don't like you but don't know you then that's their business.

    Stop paying attention to the people who don't like you and pay full attention to the people who do. You don't need to seek validation and sense of being from others. That's your job.
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  22. Jeffrey

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    Thank you Phin. Seriously. And to all the people who wanted to call me a liar........I hope you feel good about yourself.
     
  23. Seeking Answers

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    i dont think people are questioning the validity of the story itself, but who is telling it. anyone can see that story and say they are that person.

    kinda odd his name is brian, but the user name is jeffrey.

    regardless, your not gunna get the benefit of the doubt when you are coming off as mean as he is, whether he went through some stuff or not, who comes to a football message board, lets everything out then attacks people trying to help them? screw that.
     
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  24. Jeffrey

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    I already explained why I chose the user name Jeffrey. Thanks for being another hater though. If you don't have anything nice to say to me, just don't say anything at all. THANK YOU
     
  25. Samphin

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    Seems like EXCELLENT adivce to me. If only certain people followed it...
     
  26. Jeffrey

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    You called me a liar. That's not something nice. And I want to know why you haven't been reprimanded for COMPLETELY insulting me.
     
  27. Big E

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    Sam doesn't get reprimanded anymore...he's the kid with tourettes screaming in the corner...just ignore him. :shifty:
     
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    I refuse to be insulted like this. Hey moderators....are you going to do anything? I reported his post a very long time ago. And he is still taking shots at me.
     
  29. Big E

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    Isnt this the same reaction you said you are trying to get away from man? He is messing with you , he is NOT attacking you I promise.
     
  30. ToddsPhins

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    You refuse? No disrespect ..... but the irony of this statement is that you aren't refusing. You're allowing. ;)
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  31. Jeffrey

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    I'm waiting for a moderator to tell me that they are doing something about this.

    Edit: I just updated my profile picture, for all those who called me a liar. Look at the pictures on my family's story on www.drugfree.org and look at the picture I just put up. That is me, my brothers and my mother.

    Hope you feel good about yourselves.
     
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    We don't have to tell you when we do anything. We never make things public between staff and a member.
     
  33. Jeffrey

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    I just wanted to know that something was being done. I was just looking for an acknowledgment. Thank you byroan.
     
  34. Samphin

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    First off, you have no idea if I have been reprimanded or not. Who is to say that I haven't already been talked to about this? NOW who is judging who?

    Pot. Kettle. Black.

    For argument's sake, lets just assume you are telling the truth about your family's story. All I have to go off of is how you have treated everybody else on this board with classlessness and disdain for their advice, even though you asked for it.

    Quite frankly, I see you as nothing more than a troll on these boards. I could be wrong, but my spidey sense is usually pretty spot on about these things. Besides, YOU specifically came to the boards asking for advice, meaning that you will get a melting pot and myriad of answers from all walks of life and different experiences. Not all advice is going to be the same, or right, for that matter, but ALL of it is from a good place of trying to help a supposed fellow fins fan. And I think you should respect that, which clearly, you have not.

    It almost seems that if you are not a troll, that you certainly crave attention and have done a pretty damn good job of getting it (from me and others).I am fine with playing this game and giving you the attention you want, just don't expect it to be good attention, not with the way you are acting and reacting to everyone here.
     
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    I have treated "everybody else on this board with classlessness"? Actually that is far from the truth. I have treated many people on here with the respect that they deserve. People like yourself can't seem to respect me, though. And you're going to sit there and say I'm the pot calling the kettle black? Look at you. You just don't know when to stop. Don't talk to me about classlessness. I have asked the moderators that you never direct a comment at me again. Thanks and have a blessed night.
     
  36. Phinvader Bill

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    Jeffrey, this board is by far the best board (not just Dolphins board) that I've ever been on. This is a great group of great people. I havent been here very long, but they made me feel welcome from my first post. I'm big into politics, and I can get into heated debates with people who disagree with me in the political forum and its still cool and respectful. There isn't a member here who I would not want at a tailgate party that I throw. (And I throw dern good ones.) The point is that no one here attacked you. You asked for advice, and it was given. I don't think anyone here has anything against you personally, and I'm sure they wish the best for you the same way they would for anyone else.
     
  37. Jeffrey

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    Seriously.....thank you so much for your kind words. I appreciate it.
     
  38. azfinfanmang

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    Very very well put, all of it.

    As has been mentioned, many of us have been virtually together for several years.
    We all understand each others idiosyncrocies.
    Please trust me in that the members in here really do care for your best interests. It is a very tight-knit and caring group.
    As time goes, I think you will understand and see more. :up:
     
  39. SICK

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    think you just need to a take a chill pill jeffrey.....relax. no one is after you
     
  40. Jeffrey

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    I need a drink. See you guys later tonight.
     
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