I believe there's a loophole here. If she doesn't want any female strippers involved, then........ midget strippers. I'm a genius.
In all seriousness if I had a finacee telling me what is not allowed at my party you best believe I would inject equally intrusive rules on her wedding. See how she likes having her wishes overruled on her day because her husband said so
I wonder she would like him to insist on everyone dressing comfortably for his wedding. Blue jeans and Tee shirts. No collars no dresses, no wedding gown.
He should tell her "sure honey I understand strippers make you uncomfortable and I respect your feelings, now respect mine, formal clothes make me uncomfortable so put your frigging wedding dress back in the closet cause your not wearing it