Guys, I've been married for 4 years to a beautiful woman that was severly hurt and rejected as a child by her parents and who has now developed ocassional depression, a bit of an eating disorder (not in the traditional sense, in a mental sense of obsessing about food but not throwing up or purging) and the manifestation of symptoms associated with a mood disorder which creates extreme black and white thinking. We got married very quickly as were crazy for each other and I didn't fully comprehend the extent of her problems. Yes I suspected things were a bit off, but I thought they would get better the longer we stayed together. Without writing and essay I feel pulled in two directions. As an eternal optimist I have helped her get treatment and believe that with the right course of therapy / healing that she will get better. The constant mood swings and abusive behavior is overwhelming, as is our inability to have a normal schedule and social life as I never know who I'm going to wake up with in the morning. I often feel draining and tried from the tit for tat arguments that in my mind are miniscule in comparison to the realities of every day life. Many of which involve food. I care deeply about my wife but I don't know if it means sacrafacing my future. Especially when kids are out of the equation. At first I wanted kids, but her poor self image and self esteem prevented her from even thinking about the possiblity... She doesn't even think she is worthy to be a mother. Which I can respect because I now realize that until she is healed she is bound to repeat the same abuse she felt as a child. I'm not looking for answers, just a bit of advice.. I'm confused and really don't know what to do.. Divorce is something I have been thinking about but I know that below the rage is a woman that is a great person that needs help.. But that help requires so much work and isn't a guarantee.. Assuming she can stick with it.. I fear that isolation from friends and family will continue, that I wll never have kids and that our life will be a continual struggle to get through normal days.. On the other hand I have hope that she can heal herself with my help and the help of professionals. Pills do not work, regular therapy does not work.. It is going to take years of intense therapy and training for her to accept and forgive the past.. And I'm torn between believing that is possible and accepting reality that I either have to live with it or move on.. Tough spot to be in.