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Marriage advice requested

Discussion in 'Outreach Forum' started by Jimmy James, Feb 20, 2014.

  1. Jimmy James

    Jimmy James Ron Swanson

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    I am looking for people who have either ended a marriage with kids and gone on to a second one or have chosen not to end a marriage with kids for some sound advice. Please PM me and I'll give you the particulars.
     
  2. SICK

    SICK Lounge Moderator

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    Clear your pm box, it's full.
     
  3. Jimmy James

    Jimmy James Ron Swanson

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    D'oh!

    Done.
     
  4. Boik14

    Boik14 Admin Staff Member Club Member Retired Administrator

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    I haven't done any of those. But I still have sound advice. Regardless of what you decide it's almost always cheaper to keep her.
     
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  5. McLovin

    McLovin Resident Pats fan.

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    hire a good lawyer.

    if you know one. :shifty:
     
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  6. Bumrush

    Bumrush MIA till I die Club Member

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    As someone that's been down this road I recommend you proceed. Remember, people do not change. If there has been an ongoing pattern of irrational behavior, selfishness and other outside the norm behaviors I recommend you cut the cord and move on, even if it costs you money. No amount of money can substitute for a healthy emotional state.
     
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  7. finyank13

    finyank13 Reality Check

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    You should just off her......

    you can get away with it Mr. PD........
     
  8. MikeHoncho

    MikeHoncho -=| Censored |=- Club Member

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    If the glove don't fit-wait what?

    Sent from my LG-MS770 using Tapatalk 4 Beta
     
  9. Jimmy James

    Jimmy James Ron Swanson

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    Man, you guys know how to make a guy smile. I gotta tell you it's quite a tale I have, but there's not going to be any offing anybody or any keeping somebody because it's cheaper. :)
     
  10. McLovin

    McLovin Resident Pats fan.

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    good job setting up your alibi.
     
  11. Jimmy James

    Jimmy James Ron Swanson

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    I was with you amiright?
     
  12. gafinfan

    gafinfan gunner Club Member

    Use that grey matter between your ears, with the kids health and long term happiness (as well as your own), as your goal.

    You'll be kidding yourself if you think they don't know, feel, or are effected by what is happening in your home.

    Best of luck. PM if I can help.
     
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  13. ToddPhin

    ToddPhin RIP Phinsational Luxury Box Club Member

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    where? :shifty:
     
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  14. Fin D

    Fin D Derp Sherpa

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    If you want to end a marriage, then you should. Staying married when you don't want to only ensures 2 people will be miserable. That number grows if you have children.

    When you do divorce, make sure you constantly reinforce to the kids the divorce is not their fault. Never bad mouth her in front of the kids. Don't use the kids to get back at her. Keep things as amicable as possible. Do all of that for your kids well being.
     
  15. McLovin

    McLovin Resident Pats fan.

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    blame it all on FinD.

    Just keep saying. "Look kids, its not your fault. If FinD were here he would tell you it was his. I hate to blame it on FinD, but I will because it really is FinD's fault."
     
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  16. Puka-head

    Puka-head My2nd Fav team:___vs Jets

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    Ahh! Divorce...the screwing you get for the screwing you got.

    My best marriage √°dvice is don't.

    Just make sure to fight for what's real and irreplaceable. Not all the stuff.
     
  17. unluckyluciano

    unluckyluciano For My Hero JetsSuck

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    I don't think he knows any good lawyers :shifty:
     
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  18. Jimmy James

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    By the way, just as an update, the situation I thought I was in was not remotely the situation I was in. Sometimes getting your head screwed up is just that easy to do.
     
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  19. bigbry

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    Marriage advice requested

    Dont do it.
     
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  20. Jimmy James

    Jimmy James Ron Swanson

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    Oh my things just got real. The one I love so much I'd leave is very possibly ready to commit.

    She and I have history and I've always felt there was unfinished business. So has she. It has felt like a question of timing but guys I think the time is now.
     
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  21. Ohiophinphan

    Ohiophinphan Chaplain Staff Member Luxury Box

    Maybe that's been playing with your head all along? I wish you all the best.
     
  22. cdz12250

    cdz12250 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    Just from personal observation of others close to me: leaving a woman with kids to go with another woman is guaranteed to make her demonize you to the kids. She doesn't even have to do it purposely. All she has to do is suffer visibly because you left. Think it through carefully.
     

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