I'll try to make a long story short but concise. I've never been good at meeting people. I'm a very quiet and anxious person, and generally always need someone else to invite me to be part of something in order to get into it. However, at most of my stops in life when I was young - high school, two universities, and then the town that I worked in for my first job, I fell in with a group of people that I would spend time with. Some became close friends, some just people I'd hang out with when we went out as a group. After each stop, thanks to email and the internet, I'd try to keep in touch and visit and get together when I traveled back to where they live. With many, I remained close with them for years afterwards and we'd have a great time and catch up. Eleven years ago, I took a promotion with my former employer that moved me 450 miles away from my home town to another state. The good news is that I met my wife five months later, and because she's from the area and all of her family are here, we stayed. Unfortunately, my wife was the last close friend I ever made. I worked for the same company for ten more years, with stints in two different cities (commuting from the same house, halfway between), and made some casual friends at both places, but no one who I'd ever hang out with outside of work, let alone feel close to. I don't fit in very well in this area, and have a hard time meeting people similar to myself. Then comes my question. I've come to realize over the past few months something odd and uncomfortable about my friendships. I guess it should be really logical and obvious, but sometimes when its your own life, you don't realize things you would about others. In many if not all cases with my friends from stops in the past (both the close friends from my younger days, and the casual ones from more recently), I look at the other person as a much closer friend than they likely do me now. With some, I may look at them as one of my closest two or three friends in the world, but due to life and moving on, I'm now maybe not in their top 20. I've increasingly failed in attempts to catch up with most of the ones that I used to, and people who I used to see face to face 3-4 times a year and talk with online all the time I haven't seen in person in years and only talk rarely. With others, maybe I was in their 10-15 range when we worked together, and now maybe I'm some weird guy that they used to know who says hi on Facebook and creeps them out. Should I quit making an effort with the majority of them, you think? I don't want to come across as someone who can't let go, or seem like I'm cyberstalking anyone. Still, at the same time, its tough to go through life not really seeing or talking to anyone other than my wife and her family and remain sane. Thankfully, I do have a wonderful marriage and my wife and I share a ton of things in common.