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My Dad Has Passed Away today... I Lost My Best Friend

Discussion in 'Outreach Forum' started by Disnardo, May 31, 2010.

  1. Disnardo

    Disnardo Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but this is one of the areas where I would love some spiritual support...

    I was with him this morning when he had a stroke, call 911 and went to the hospital with him...

    The greatest man I have met in my life, took extra care of his wife (my mom) over the last few years while she got her first bout of Alzheimer. Was married to the only woman he ever loved for over 54 years. Saw him cry many times over the last few years due to my mom condition...

    We know he did not suffer and he is now in a better place, just wanted others to know that I will miss him...
     
  2. byroan

    byroan Giggity Staff Member Administrator Luxury Box

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    So sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you.
     
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  3. LandShark13

    LandShark13 New Member

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    Can't really give you much if any spiritual support bro but my heart goes out to you and your family.
     
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  4. Big E

    Big E Plus sized porn star

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    I'm so sorry brother. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
     
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  5. padre31

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    I weep with you Brother.
     
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  6. brandon27

    brandon27 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    Sorry for your loss Bro. Sounds like your father was a great man.
     
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  7. MikeHoncho

    MikeHoncho -=| Censored |=-

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    Damn. I'm sorry for your loss.
     
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  8. Starry31

    Starry31 Phins and Heels.

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    Sorry to hear that. There's not really any good with something like this, but you can be thankful that it sounds like he was a great man and you were able to call him your best friend. Again, sorry for your loss.
     
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  9. Crappy Tipper

    Crappy Tipper AKA Hero13

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    I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you find the strength you need when those who need it lean on you and you find solid people to lean on in turn.
     
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  10. cnc66

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    So sorry to hear this Nardo.. you, and your family are in my prayers, if there is anything I might do please give me a shout.
     
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  11. Ohiophinphan

    Ohiophinphan Chaplain Staff Member Luxury Box

    Let me add my condolences to all the rest.

    Speaking as one who has walked this path, it is a very difficult time! Please know your friends and family here support you. You are in our thoughts and for many of us, prayers.

    I am glad he did not suffer and that you know him to be in a better place. Those will help in the time ahead. Today, allow the grief to happen. Mourn him. He sounds worthy of tears. Let your body and soul have the catharsis of grief.

    Stay in touch as you are able and know you will remain in my prayers.
     
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  12. Boik14

    Boik14 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    So sorry to hear the bad news dude. If you need to talk or just ramble for a bit to take your mind off of things feel free to pm me.
     
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  13. unluckyluciano

    unluckyluciano For My Hero JetsSuck

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    Sorry to hear this bro. Thoughts and prayers.
     
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  14. azfinfanmang

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    Also very sorry to hear this brother Nardo.
    Not hard to see where you inherited your great character from.
    You and your family are in my prayers brother.
    Rest assured your Father is looking down from above and smiling at you.
     
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  15. Disnardo

    Disnardo Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    I wish to thank everyone here (thePhisn.com family) from the bottom of my heart and let me tell you that all your thoughts and prayers have not gone unanswered...

    Last night for the most part and this morning has been an easier one for me and the family... We have made our arrangements and he will be laid to rest 2morrow morning...

    God Bless everyone here and let me tell you when you have love ones that are of elderly age, please enjoy your time together as much as you can and take pictures, movies cause as time goes by, that and memories are what we end up treasuring...
     
  16. Bpk

    Bpk Premium Member Luxury Box

    It's just another reminder that people matter. Your father, may he rest in peace, and the time you spent with him will be remembered and treasured, but also all the people still around you in your life are still there to be valued and appreciated. Even this community is a small part of that.

    I am so glad you feel your Dad is at peace, and you are at peace about his passing.

    My condolences and I wish you great love and joy as you move ahead through healing and living with those around you.

    Barry
     
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  17. Ohiophinphan

    Ohiophinphan Chaplain Staff Member Luxury Box

    Amen!
     
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  18. finyank13

    finyank13 Reality Check

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    Nardo,

    For it is not about intense pain and grief you feel right now in your heart, but rather the years of joy your old man has brought to you, and you have brought to him. Look not blankly at him tomorrow morning and wonder why or was it his time, but remember the mutitude of good times that you shared as father and son; and be honored and humbled that the Lord has rewarded his loyal servant with a place in heaven for eternity, his rightful place.....Let us pray...

    Mike
     
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  19. steveincolorado

    steveincolorado Spook, Storme & Pebbles

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    So sorry to hear about your lost. Your friends on here are here to support you in any way we can.

    Steve
     
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  20. jetssuck

    jetssuck I hear Mandich's voice...

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    Sorry for your loss, Nardo.....my thoughts are with you and your family
     
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  21. baboo72

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    Sorry to hear of your loss bro, my prayers are with you and your family.
     
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  22. Sethdaddy8

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    thoughts and prayers bro
     
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  23. OCDolfan

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    I wish you well during your time of distress.
     
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  24. King Felix

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    damn brah, sorry to hear. RIP
     
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  25. steveincolorado

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    Are you okay, is there anything we can do?

    Remember, we're all here for you!
     
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  26. Disnardo

    Disnardo Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    Got great family and friends support, including the support and prayers I have received from the wonderful people here...

    thank you and God Bless you all....
     
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  27. Fin Fan In Cali

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    May your dad rest in peace. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family brother. I know how your dad must of felt with your mom having Alzheimer's. My father in law has a very bad case of it at 62.
     
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  28. Miamian

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    Sorry I'm late.

    My condolences.
     
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  29. The Rev

    The Rev Totus Tuus Staff Member Administrator Luxury Box Club Member

    Me too...Prayers for you and your family during this difficult time.
     
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  30. dolfndav34

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    Our prayers are to you and your family.
     
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  31. gunn34

    gunn34 I miss Don & Dan

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    Sorry to hear about your loss bro. Stay strong.
     
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  32. Celtkin

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    Brother Nardo, I am very sorry that I am late to this thread. Like many of the members who have answered here, I grieve with you. Losing a parent is not an easy thing to adjust to.

    You are in my thoughts and prayers and if there is anything you need, please don't hesitate to ask.
     
  33. djphinfan

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    Iam sorry Nardo....hope your doing ok buddy...stay strong
     
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  34. gafinfan

    gafinfan gunner Club Member

    You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless and may your Dad RIP.
     
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  35. BigDogsHunt

    BigDogsHunt Enough talk...prove it!

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    Yeah, hang in there.....positive vibes to help on the way.
     
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  36. Disnardo

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    Yeah, guys and gals, I guess we are doing as best as expected...

    Tomorrow will be a tough one... it is his Birthday...

    Thanks all again for your continuing support and prayers...
     
  37. jetssuck

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    The first few years are very hard when it comes to holidays, birthdays etc..

    You just kinda have to get thru them. My father died 2 days before fathers day, so I started out with it similar to how you are having to yourself. . My best advice is for everyone to try and focus on all the good memories, keeps ya smiling instead of crying.

    I wish much strength for you and your family
     
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  38. Jeff

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    You lost a member of your family, but your family here will help you through it. May he rest in peace.
     
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  39. Disnardo

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    I Have Been Privileged to Hear a Message from My Father Today, on His Birthday...

    I know it sounds crazy, but some will still believe, and its OK if others don't...

    I have had a GREAT DAY, and it started this morning at 4 AM...

    I am one that usually knows when I am dreaming and I can interject in my dreams with the characters that my subconcious create. Knowing my rational and analytical side, I usually create and get what I want in dreams, and many times I have controlled and stopped nightmares, so I can tell when something is not going to plan... and for the most part I cannot remember when I could not control a dream...

    It started in the dream, and in it, I was walking from a Marlins game (this was very strange for me), since I never recalled dreaming about the Marlins, but my dad used to watch as many games on TV when they were on. He always talked about them during the season...

    All of a sudden I hear my "Cell Phone" ring. Again (this seemed odd), I never recalled having a cell phone in my dream, so I picked my Black Berry from its belt pouch and I heard, I voice a have not heard in a week. I quickly thought and analyzed, again realizing that I was dreaming, at least it seemed like it...

    It was my Father's voice and tone, the exact way he answers the phone when he calls me or I call him, there was no mistake about it, seeming like he wanted to make sure I knew it was him. I realized that my stress of the last week has caused this dream to happen, but something was odd as I stated, I had no control of the situation, like I always do in my dreams... and I thought that was the rational analysis, said it was just a dream...

    What his voice said, was a message, I recalled about 80-90% of what he said, because I was trying to speak over it, trying to interrupt it, but the voice kept the same tempo and never stop to respond or stop in between, until it was finish. My Dad's voice told me that "he was OK, he was happy, he was in a good place and wanted us to know that". He also stated for "us not to worry about him and for us to take good care of each other now that he was not around (this part I was not paying to good attention to since I was trying to interrupt his message with stupid questions), this was the last part...

    Then his voice just stopped, lasting like about a 10 seconds in all, like about a couple of dozen words. The I continuued for a few more seconds to get the voice to respond, but the phone I had in my hand just disapeared and I made my self wake up, looked at the clock (reading 4:01 AM), and smiled, cried and wished my father a "Happy Birthday" (today is his B-Day), out loudly... I thought I had a great dream after a dreadfull week...

    So I told my mom and sis about it...

    Anyways I kind of still thought that this was just a dream after waking up, til I remember a few incidents that happened the days after my dads death. The first one, the next day, was in the afternoon, and most of the family was making plans for the wake and burial, except my niece. She was witness to an unusual event, she was watching TV in my room with her small dog by her side on the bed, when the dog got up and sat in front of my parents room which is next door to my room. Her dog started to lowly bark or yelp as he stared at my parents room, and then he kept looking back at her and the room for a bout 15 seconds (back and forth) she stated this...

    The second event, was the 2nd morning after, early morning as I was laying in bed, awake, I could swear that I heard my dad's (his voice) call my mom by the nick name he gave her a few years ago... my mom was in her bed at the time...

    This kind of made me re-analyze my dream experience, and there could have been the possibility that maybe the dream was the method that his spirit used to communicate, but I thought that it did not make any sense, until a neighbor told me something this afternoon that brought that possibilty to light... My sister told my neighbor about my dream and she had to come over to talk to me...

    My neighbor (kind hearted woman around her mid 60's) told me, my sister, and mom, that through her life, she has been told (numerous times) that after death, spirits normal stay on earth for around 7-9 days, then they "Go into the Light" (Heaven I guess). During this time that the spirit wonders, it stays around those they have spent their time with... and if allowed those living are privilege to hear a message from them, if God permits and he or his Angels assigns the person who will hear the message...

    She told me that it is very "rare" when that happens and when it happens it is to a Soul who is very worthy of God's Grace... and again she repeated numerous times how priveleged I was to hear his message. She told me that it was the first time in her life that she met someone who actually heard a departed "Spirit's message," that was how rare it was...

    This brought new information to re-analyze the hole dream thing and since everything in that "phone call" was not in accordance to how I control my dreams, the logical and rational thinking (IMHO) that I did in deed, heard my father's message from the after life... and I feel so proud, not to just be priveleged but, to know that he was very worthy of God's Grace...

    I wonder if anyone here, who has lost a loved one, had any type of similar experiences or events...

    May Good Bless everyone and offer them the privilege to hear their departed love one's voice as he has allowed me...
     
  40. Bpk

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    That's amazing brother. I would never claim to not believe it. This universe we are in is truly incredible.

    Thank you for sharing.
     
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