I've been married for 12 years now and for the most part I can say I have a pretty wonderful life with my wife and kids. However, there's a serious problem. Without getting into the ridiculous details, our love life ended about seven years ago due to an illness....I'm fine, but my wife is no longer able to have sex...ever. Like in ever ever....and none of that other stuff either. I'm in my late 30's and try not to let it bother me, but if you're a guy then you know darn well it's a serious issue. I've never cheated on my wife (well, we'll get to that in a minute), never thought about splitting up our family or anything like that...but one night we had a few too many drinks and my wife brought up an arrangement of sorts. In a half-drunken state she confessed that it had to drive me crazy, and we ended up having a long, drawn out converstaion about it. Basically I told her that, "guys are guys...of course it's a problem," but I also made it fully clear that I was fine abstaining. She then mentioned someone that she worked with that was "not into guys" who wanted to have a baby, so she said the had been thinking about it and it would help everyone involved. Now, I've seen the gals where she works, and for the life of me I could not think of one that was even halfway good looking. Then again, it had been like seven years....so hey....it was worth a thought. No strings attached, everything up front...and eventually I'd be a dad that would adopt out a child. Anyway, the next morning I didn't mention it and my wife didn't either, so I thought...oh well, was a fun though. About three days later though, my wife comes home and says that she worked out the details....and I was like holy s*$t...can I do this? I told my wife no (secretly screaming yes!) and then she pulled the gal up on Facebook...umm, she's 19 and super hot. Quickly my no went to a "probably not," but this girl was all I could think about for days (if you're a guy....you know where I'm coming from....don't pretend that you don't). Finally, after a long discussion my wife and I decided to go to dinner with her one night...why, I don't f%@kin know...it's not like getting to know her would change anything...she was hot! I was saying no for moral reasons...it had nothing to do with attraction. So anyway, at dinner (which was about a week ago) we were basically silent most of the night...it was just wierd. My wife goes to the bathroom and it was even more ackward, so I asked the gal if she was in a relationship. She said the last GUY she dated was almost two years ago and HE was a total ***, so she didn't want anything serious. This threw me for a loop, so she told me that I was good looking and she didn't see how my wife could do this to me. She made up the whole lesbian thing to trick my wife into agreeing to this, and she also told me that she can't have kids anyway so it's basically just casual sex. Meanwhile, my wife comes back, we leave the restaurant, and in the car ride home when I say it's not a good idea...she calls me selfish of all things...saying that I should help her friend/co-worker. If I tell my wife now she'll fire the girl, but at the same time she's very important to the job and my wife may get in trouble as well (she will definitely cause a scene). If I go through with it I'm a piece of s&@t...but what a great piece of s^#t that would be. I 100% want to do this but I 1000% know I shouldn't...which is why I posted here anonymously. I'm looking for advice, and even though I know it's not a smart move you guys know what I'm talking about. This is a dream-like fantasy almost anyone would jump on (quite literally), so tell me why I should or shouldn't do this.