And I respectfully disagree. I was raised in a house that followed the "spare the rod and spoil the child" mindset. I know that me, myself am better off for having strong parental influences to lay a firm groundwork of what is expected of me. I grew up in a very down ridden community, that had it not been for both of my parents and their firm but loving guidance, would've been very easy for me to fall in with the wrong crowd or do things that would endanger my future. Had it not been for their love AND firm discipline I know for me personally, that I would have not ended up where I am today. I hold no resentment for the spankings I received and I am thankful that I had parents that had a sense of value and discipline. I know that this may not apply to everyone, and I am speaking on my own personal experiences. Not knowing the full story behind AP's situation I know I cannot comment on his mindset or his method of punishment. My parents (in my mind) never went overboard with their punishment and was never excessive. I can only speak from my personal experiences and how I feel it helped shaped me as an individual.