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Premature ejaculation

Discussion in 'Questions and Answers' started by Seeking Answers, Apr 7, 2009.

  1. Seeking Answers

    Seeking Answers New Member

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    This is not a joke. and it is quite embarrassing. but i have been with my girlfriend for about 6 years now our sex used to be awesome. i have never had this problem before, because i always enjoyed everything and i never thought about it

    well recently, we have not been as sexually active as i would like. and when we do, i do not last that long. i believe honestly its because of the lack of sex that when we do get around to doing it, i want to make it awesome so she wants to do it more :lol:

    well i find myself under alot of pressure to perform, and when iam doing the business iam literally the entire time telling myself "dont finish dont finsish dont finish"

    well that makes things seem to feel better, our i am just mentally weak and i finish prematurely. i think its a mental block. i just need to know if anyone else had this problem and how they got around it?

    i mean i heave tried to go down the dolphins starting depth chart in my head, but its to no avail. and whats the point of making some whoopy with your girl, if your thinking about quinton moses and rodrick wright the entire time?!

    this once again is embarassing, but i figured id ask you people if you have any advice? thanks.
     
  2. opfinistic

    opfinistic Braaaaains!

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    I'm no doctor but I believe that the lack of activity makes everything build up more and when the time comes....whammy! Be careful, contents under pressure! Maybe you need to bleed the line once in a while to prevent the pressure from building up too much. :dunno:
     
  3. SICK

    SICK Lounge Moderator

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    lol i usually just whack the carrot a few times before wifey gets home......i think that has been working for me :huh:
     
  4. opfinistic

    opfinistic Braaaaains!

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    I think that can be counterproductive in excess.
     
  5. Muck

    Muck Throwback Uniform Crusader Retired Administrator

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    I'd think that going down the Dolphins depth chart gets one even more pumped up.

    At least that's what I've heard.
     
  6. azfinfanmang

    azfinfanmang Premium Member Luxury Box

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    Guess it depends on what floats your boat

    Back OT:
    In my opinion, abstinence will indeed add to the lack of control

    If you really want to improve your "Staying Power" , I suggest reading up on male Kagels (sp). There is a muscle near the nether regions you can build, and yes it definitely helps. :up:
     
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  7. HardKoreXXX

    HardKoreXXX Insensitive to the Touch

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    I've been in this situation many times. When you're with a new girl, or haven't been getting it on a consistent basis the performance anxiety can creep in and cause you to finish alot quicker than you normally would.

    My suggestion would be for you to be on top. This way you can control the motion and ease up if you feel yourself stray towards the point of no return.

    I've found that going slower, in addition to helping you last longer, seems to turn the girl on even more. When you feel like you need to slow down, kiss her neck, chest, ear or whatever sweet spot she prefers the most.

    Hope this helps.
     
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  8. anlgp

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    i'll second keigel exercises and what hardkore said. sex doesn't have to be vaginal penetration the whole time. just stop for a few minutes and rest it up meanwhile kissing, holding etc. then when you feel you're ready to hop back in the saddle again you're good to go.

    also, masturbate before you have sex as sick said as well (maybe like a half hour before hand if you know when it's going to happen) that way it's already out of your system once and it will take longer to get you there again.

    also also when you masturbate by yourself try getting yourself as close to getting off as possible then stop going at it (note if you gotta blow you gotta blow don't stop that it's not healthy) but ya know.. stop goin at it before you do.. and then let yourself calm down. you'll notice it more and more that when you have sex you'll be able to tell when that "point of no return is" before you get there.

    ...

    :shifty:
     
  9. Sethdaddy8

    Sethdaddy8 Well-Known Member

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    good advice thus far. just beat off more, it'll slow you down for sure.
     
  10. FinSane

    FinSane Cynical Dolphins Fan

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    pretty much what everyone said here:

    1. rub one out beforehand
    2. practice on your own to obtain more control
    3. go slower in the sack, taking breaks
    4. those keigel exercises ive heard as well, they work though I havent done them myself.
    5. ill add one: marijuana not only enhances sex, it also helps me last longer. though this method is controversial and may not be for you. but it works for me.
     
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  11. SICK

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    i honestly heard taking your time and enjoying masturbation.....rather than rushing....helps also.

    that old lady on "oxygen" at like midnight said it.....so its gotta be true
     
  12. FinSane

    FinSane Cynical Dolphins Fan

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    *instant flaccidity*
     
  13. vmarcilfan75

    vmarcilfan75 blah...blah...blah... Club Member

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    just spend more time downtown on her till shes finishes then jump on for your minute ride. So atleast you both finish :)
     
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  14. HardKoreXXX

    HardKoreXXX Insensitive to the Touch

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    I can go for hours with Beer-Dick. Although as you said, it's not for everyone.
     
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  15. Seeking Answers

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    when your wacking it, when you feel your about to........uh you know. stop and let the feeling go away and then start wacking it again. keep doing that it will work :up:
     
  16. jupiterfin

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    3 words... Horny Goat Weed.
     
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  17. Lab3003

    Lab3003 Golden era

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    I'm not a sex therapist but I have finished my 2nd year of med school.

    A lot depends on your age. If you're 15 - 21 your levels of testosterone are going to make lasting longer during sex very difficult. The best advice I could give you is to go ahead and embrace your abilities to ejaculate quickly instead of viewing it as some negative. If you ejaculate quickly during sex, make the conscious decision that your sex won't end with your ejaculation. Perform lots of four-play before penetration to enhance your partners experience and then after you ejaculate remove the condom and continue stimulating your partner while they are still at the height of arousal. Continue to stimulate your partner until your erection returns and over time you'll notice that you can continue having sex after ejaculation. Put on another condom (PLEASE USE CONDOMS DURING SEX) and then penetrate your partner again. Should solve your problem.

    You could read about Tantric Sex (http://is.gd/rh4j) if you're interested in sex and spirituality and lasting longer. Its a great experience; I had a Tantric partner during undergrad and it was a fantastic experience.
     
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  18. anlgp

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    mmmmmmm tantric sex.
     
  19. Seeking Answers

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    I seem to have the opposite problem...it takes me for ever, I've seriously gone 2 hours before. The only way I can seem to climax is when the girl is on top...honestly
     
  20. anlgp

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    You do this too long you'll have knee high kid tugging at your jacket asking you to buy a snow cone in a few years.
     
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  21. SICK

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    if i ever have this problem....i just strap up again in 5 minutes....but iam 22....i can do that :lol:
     
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  22. unluckyluciano

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    just do what I do, date ugly women.
     
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  23. unluckyluciano

    unluckyluciano For My Hero JetsSuck

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    that wont work for guys like sick and enforcer, hookers hate when you do that ****.
     
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  24. Boik14

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    For a minute I thought I was in my PM box and wasnt sure if those annoying emailers had found me again! :lol:

    On the serious side, the advice others have given is solid. I would add to it that slowing down is the best one I have seen. Go slow, many women I have been with prefer it. As guys, many of us have the tendency to just want to ground and pound because we're males and we just like to get stuff over with.

    I agree that avoiding ejaculation shouldnt be a chore and going over the Phins roster during sex would be pretty bad. What I have learned this can mean in certain relationships is that sex has become a chore because the relationship doesnt have the same spark. Maybe trying some different things as far as foreplay and positions might make it more fun and maybe she'll want to do it more often.

    People also forget to breath during sex the same way they do during weight training and other intense physical activities. Intake of oxygen is as important as anything. I noticed my performance in the gym changed when I learned to breath when lifting. The same thing happened for me in the bedroom.
     
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  25. Frumundah Finnatic

    Frumundah Finnatic U Mad Miami?

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    You could always take a cialis.

    Thats generally how the process works.
     
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  26. texanphinatic

    texanphinatic Senior Member

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    Or a topical numbing agent like Maxoderm. And no I dont have any recommendations or experience with it, just seen tons of commercials :up:
     
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  27. byroan

    byroan Giggity Staff Member Administrator Luxury Box

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  28. Big E

    Big E Plus sized porn star

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    Riiiiiiight. :wink2:
     
  29. HardKoreXXX

    HardKoreXXX Insensitive to the Touch

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    To the OP, Make sure you keep us posted on how your next "Sack Dance" turns out.
     
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  30. Dol-Fan Dupree

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    That is an excellent point. If you breath into your belly while you are having sex you will last longer.

    An easy way to check this out is when you are masturbating and notice your breathing through out the masturbation. Note how when you are about to ejaculate how your breathing speeds up and maybe even stops. So breathing is a way to actually last longer.

    Also when you feel you are about to ***, to let out all of your breath, hold it, and more your eyes into the back of your head. This will simulate choking to the body and you will not be able to ejaculate if your body thinks it is going to die.

    I find the best thing to do is to let go and just please the hell out of her because that is what brings you pleasure. (this tip does not work on hookers). If you can find a way to take away the anxiety from premature ejaculation then you will have it less. Especially if you can get to the point where you do not care if you do prematurely ejaculate. It is that extra pressure that helps cause premature ejaculation. If it is a mental thing and not something wrong with your johnson. There is no better way to prematurly ejaculate then think, "I don't want to ***, or don't ***, or don't prematurely ejaculate." Also realize that you are kind of fighting nature as well. It is in the best interest for your body to ejaculate as quick as possible and then leave before a monster or another man beats the **** out of you.

    There are practices you may do, in fact a few have been posted on this board. Just realize that sometimes you will last seconds, sometimes you will last minutes and if you are drunk or practice tantra enough you will last hours.

    I edited out that first piece of bad advice Mr Dupree before someone goes ahead and tries it. Dont want anyone getting hurt...please dont take offense to me doing so. - Boik14
     
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  31. DOLBET

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    Don't do this. I did that method and I felt something popped in my ***** and the blood was coming out of the end. :no: Doctor called me an idiot for doing that because I expanded the urethra beyond its limits and so there was few tiny "cuts" or " stress fissures". I piss blood for next 4 years because every time I piss, the cuts opens up again due to piss expanding the urethra and it is so painful. It is not a experience I want to have again.
     
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  32. Big E

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    ouch!!!!!!!!!!!
     
  33. opfinistic

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    Holy! Thanks for the heads up on that one!
     
  34. Dol-Fan Dupree

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    Definately thanks. I am happy I never tried it.
     
  35. Nappy Roots

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    yup, us 22 year old are Kings...:hi5:


    but for real, i have 2 different methods to this because ive had problems with this sometimes to, im sure every guy does, if not, i dont care, i still get mine...it always depends on the female. how good does she look, how long have i been trying to get it, do i hope to get it multiple times. if she is hot and i hope to do this multiple times with her, i make sure i beat off before hand(i met a girl one time was so bad, i beat off in my car on the way to meet her, cuz i like to party). If ive had sex with this female before, so i dont really care about anything except for getting mine at that point, or shes not great looking and i could care less about really ever getting it again, i will just let it flow, whatever. some positions will be different depending on the girl and what she is good at. some girls i can let get on top and i could go for a while, others i try to get on top so i can last a little bit, if im going for the back you know im getting mine and riding out. sorry bout your luck. but if its good while i was there, i will strap up again(or not depending the chick) and go at it again. but like Sick said, we are 22, so we can do that.

    also, to the thread starter, i realize you dont have the luxury of picking and choosing which chicks to do it to, but the masterbation still works. i would recommand doing that. with this...

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    awwww, its great stuff! you will show her whose boss once your ready to go again!
     
  36. SICK

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    lmao nappy is the ****ing king :hi5:
     
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  37. Frumundah Finnatic

    Frumundah Finnatic U Mad Miami?

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    :lol:
     
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  38. Paul 13

    Paul 13 Chaotic Neutral & Unstable Genius Staff Member

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    Just to note, the original poster is not describing what I would think premature ejaculation to be defined as... to me, I would suspect PE happens before you even get to the sex part... he's just finishing early because he is all built up...
     

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