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Should I go out with her?

Discussion in 'Questions and Answers' started by Seeking Answers, Aug 17, 2009.

  1. Seeking Answers

    Seeking Answers New Member

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    There's this girl that asked me if I want to see a movie with her.....but here's the deal....she's a waitress at my local hangout establishment, and familiar with the people I hang out with. I find her fiarly intersting, but really don't see anything coming of it. So here's my predicament....

    1. I am here for a finite amount of time and need to be free to move here in about 5 months. Don't really want to start something/get attached...don't think it will happen, but who knows.

    2. I'm not really digging her from what I know. I'll admit that I DO find her interesting.....but not sure if she's interesting enough to risk shelling my favorite establishment. At any rate, looking at where I'm at, and she's at..i don't see how it could possibly work long term.

    3. I kinda dig this other girl...no idea if the feelings are reciprocated...not sure if I'm even going to pursue it, but pursuing this would blow that up (she's not a fan of the chick that asked me out).

    So...do I go out with her? And if not, how do I do so in a manner that keeps it from being awkward with everyone afterward s? ideas?

    Thanks
     
  2. Big E

    Big E Plus sized porn star

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    Well first and foremost if you read your post you answer most of your questions yourself. Trust your gut. First instincts are a big factor and you should not ignore them. If you are already doubting it will work then it prob. wont, if you want to just go out and have fun with her then do it, but make it fairly clear without just coming out and say it, that you are only in town, etc. for a short time. Hang out spots come and go, but if you are worried things will get awkward if things don't workout, again, you are already answering your own question.
     
  3. anlgp

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    do what you want to do like e said. if you want it short term just make sure she knows. there's nothing wrong going on a few dates and keeping it low key.

    OTOH i would go with the girl i really wanted to go with and not settle for one just because she reciprocates the feelings.

    also, the hangout spot should be the least of your worries IMO.
     
  4. BuckeyeKing

    BuckeyeKing Wolves DYNASTY!!!!

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    If you don't like her dont force yourself to like her.
     
  5. texanphinatic

    texanphinatic Senior Member

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    Booty call? Friends with benefits? One "date" doesnt need to lead to marriage. ;)
     
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  6. anlgp

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    no but it can lead to kids
     
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  7. mf52dolphin

    mf52dolphin Season Ticket Holder

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    As for the waitress that is asking you to catch a movie, if she is willing to pay, and you treat the movie experience like a movie review trip, then it would be ok to go. Otherwise, since you seem hesitant to go, don't go unless all the conditions are met.

    As for the other girl that you seem to like, well since you are unsure of a connection, and since you are a short timer, I think that will lead to nothing.
     
  8. slickj101

    slickj101 Is Water

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    Who cares. See where it goes if you're interested.

    Avoiding a place bc of some girl is silly anyways.
     
  9. Big E

    Big E Plus sized porn star

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    ok, now I know where to get advice on how to become a male pimp...:shifty:
     
  10. SargeZ33

    SargeZ33 Semperfi!

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    Pics or it didnt happen!!!
     
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  11. Fin D

    Fin D Sigh Club Member

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    If you can't decide between a girl or an eating establishment, then the decision is pretty much already made.
     
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  12. Big E

    Big E Plus sized porn star

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    Thats what I said in more words...douche. :pity:
     
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  13. Fin D

    Fin D Sigh Club Member

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    ^ 8 words for you

    "You said it with less words...douche."

    ^ 7 words for me






    Still kicking your ***!!!!!!!!! :lol:
     
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  14. opfinistic

    opfinistic Braaaaains!

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    Only if you're both lucky, and extremely unlucky at the same time.
     
  15. Phinvader Bill

    Phinvader Bill The all new Mr. Event

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    Tell her that you may be moving in a few months right off the bat. Then, its up to her, and when the time comes for you to leave, she already knows. If you are really into her when the time comes, maybe she can come with you. I was in a similar situation with my wife when we started dating. We started the relationship knowing that I was going to be moving. She came with me when I moved and we are still happily married with a crumb cruncher on the way.
     
  16. DrAstroZoom

    DrAstroZoom Canary in a Coal Mine Luxury Box

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    Yeah, what everyone else has said, plus: I'm not sure why you're worried about the "other" girl in point 3 if point 1 is true.
     
  17. Firesole

    Firesole Season Ticket Holder

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    I sure hope this thread doesn't lead to this person posting "should I" questions everytime he gets a woody.

    Once in a while you just have to think with your ****, and give the brain a rest.
     
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  18. opfinistic

    opfinistic Braaaaains!

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    :hi5:
     
  19. m ino

    m ino New Member

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    go for it!! either way your gonna find a new place to....eat...out.
     
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  20. unluckyluciano

    unluckyluciano For My Hero JetsSuck

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    lets see you're worried about going to a movie with a girl on a first date for something that might not work out, and you're worried that you might lose a hang out that you are losing in 5 months. ummmmmmmmmm what?
     
  21. SICK

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    yes.
     
  22. Big E

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    Take her to Vegas...but only to drink.
     

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