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So I really screwed up (job)

Discussion in 'Outreach Forum' started by Alex44, Aug 26, 2012.

  1. Alex44

    Alex44 Boshosaurus Rex

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    Basically I got really drunk last night with a friend, and slept through my 4 AM shift today and crashed before I could call out. Knowing the consequences I tried to lie and say I went to the hospital yesterday. The only thing that bought me was "Well if you can prove it, we won't fire you". So needless to say I'm really screwed. I'll even admit that I'm crying. Basically the only half decent thing I had going in my life is going to be gone tomorrow when I go in. I know it's just a job, but I really don't have a damn thing else at all. Compounded on top of other problems, I'm wondering if it's even worth being alive at all. Worst is knowing my own bad decision is what screwed me.

    I don't know exactly why I posted, advice, support, whatever. I just had to put it down in writing I guess....
     
  2. padre31

    padre31 Premium Member Luxury Box

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    Sorry to hear that Brother.

    Don't get to locked into a job being your life, but do you have a family Dr?
     
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  3. Alex44

    Alex44 Boshosaurus Rex

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    I wish. I barely even have a family let alone a regular doctor. It was actually my first thought, but then I realized "Yeah, I don't have that"
     
  4. Stringer Bell

    Stringer Bell Post Hard, Post Often Club Member

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    Is this the first time this has happened?

    Generally, my advice would be to just be honest with your employer. Tell them why it happened and how you will make sure it will not happen again.
     
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  5. padre31

    padre31 Premium Member Luxury Box

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    Well, if you are interested in keeping the job, you can enroll in a rehab clinic and let them know that you did so.
     
  6. Alex44

    Alex44 Boshosaurus Rex

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    Sadly it's kind of a one strike deal, I've seen people get canned before for the same reason. Beg/Plead everything. Corporations just don't care about people =/

    Haha Padre...that's a cool idea but wouldn't that require actually going to rehab? That would totally suck considering I don't even drink except like once every few months.
     
  7. padre31

    padre31 Premium Member Luxury Box

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    Read your comapnies' policies on it first, but yeah, it could work.

    Inc's hold all the cards nowadays, you have to learn how their system works to find a way to do this..and do so in a hurry.
     
  8. Alex44

    Alex44 Boshosaurus Rex

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    Guessing no-one on the site is a doctor who wants to help me out.....lol
     
  9. Ronnie Bass

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    I know right now it's hard to believe what I'm going to tell you, but five years from now this predicament you're in will be long forgotten by you and when you do recall it you will probably laugh about it more than being down about it, so no reason to do the unthinkable. I've been there so I know.
     
  10. Alex44

    Alex44 Boshosaurus Rex

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    I know...I really hate the job in all honesty. It's just the fact that it's my only income, only way I eat, only everything at the moment. If I do get canned maybe I can get unemployment while I search...

    It's just a really crappy situation.
     
  11. finyank13

    finyank13 Reality Check

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    File for unemployment, and take a breathe Alex.....

    don't do anything you, your friends, family or anybody else who cares for you will have to deal with that is preventable....

    I cant stress how much you need to take a minute and pause, and NOT act right now.....just chill baby-bubba...
     
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  12. Fin D

    Fin D Derp Sherpa

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    You're young. This happens. Learn from it.
     
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  13. Boik14

    Boik14 Admin Staff Member Club Member Retired Administrator

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    Shouright is a shrink. He might be good to ask since im sure he deals with young people doing irresponsible stuff everyday.

    Really though you just messed up. Youre still young and you will see people do stupid things all the time. Just learn from it. If you need to talk just pm or aim.
     
  14. DrAstroZoom

    DrAstroZoom Canary in a Coal Mine Luxury Box

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    There are many, MANY worse ways you could've screwed up. :yes:
     
  15. Boik14

    Boik14 Admin Staff Member Club Member Retired Administrator

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    Not sure of florida law on unemployment but in Ny its 6 months at the job.
     
  16. MikeHoncho

    MikeHoncho -=| Censored |=- Club Member

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    Head to the ladies lounge alex. You're welcome in advance.
     
  17. Boik14

    Boik14 Admin Staff Member Club Member Retired Administrator

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    That may be the best post you've ever made. Sound advice. That should make him feel better in more ways then one.
     
  18. Vendigo

    Vendigo German Gigolo Club Member

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    So what exactly is preventing you from going to the hospital and claim that you have violent headaches and get them to write you a note that you were there?
     
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  19. Boik14

    Boik14 Admin Staff Member Club Member Retired Administrator

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    Or that you have back or neck pain?
     
  20. WhiteIbanez

    WhiteIbanez Megamediocremaniacal

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    A similar thing happened to me in July. I was out drinking the night before but I made it in. They said they could smell it on me and sent me for a drug screen.
    Yep I was railroaded into a drug test. The test came back positive and I was fired. I applied for unemployment and won on the grounds that I was drinking the night before.
    They believed me. I was miserable at that job anyway. Since I have been gone the stress has been lifted in my life.
    You have to pick yourself up off the floor and move on bro. I initially had the same thoughts you do but decided it wasn't worth it at all.
    Your life and happiness is way more important than any job.
    There will be another job man.
     
  21. BlameItOnTheHenne

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    What are the consequences of not showing up at all and telling them you just drastically overslept?
     
  22. GridIronKing34

    GridIronKing34 Silently Judging You Club Member

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    Any updates for us, man? Hope you're doing alright.
     
  23. Rocky Raccoon

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    Fin D is like 75 years old so he understands life more and his advice is spot on, Alex.

    You made a bad mistake. We ALL make them. You'll make many more too. As Ronnie said, you'll look back and laugh at this in a few years.

    Life is about learning. You will learn from this and you be better for it. Your mistakes are what make you a better person.

    And more importantly, if you are SERIOUSLY considering ending your life, get help. And get it now. If there's anything I can do please ask. I'd be happy to help.
     
  24. cdz12250

    cdz12250 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    The only thing you need help with is dealing with it emotionally. You are punishing yourself for the consequences of two irresponsible acts. One of them involves dishonesty, compounds the problem, and reflects negatively on your character. Yes, that hurts. No one likes to look in the mirror and see that, apart from losing the job as a result. But it's over and you have the rest of your long life to make up for it. You are neither a drunk nor a liar. You're one of the good guys. You know that. There is a lot of steady good you can do for an organization if you're just a bit more careful.

    You did something without thinking it through because you were scared. I'm 61 years old, and if I had a dime for every time I did that when I was young, I'd have a new car. It's called growing up. We don't stop growing up until we die. If your employer rejects you now, it isn't personal; it's acting logically. Accept the consequences, and understand that if there was such a lack of room for this kind of error that you had to lie, the organization really didn't care that much about you. If missing the shift could have been overcome and it was the lie that got you fired, then you learned a hugely valuable lesson in being dependable that has already turned you into a better person. You may not think so right now, but it has -- what you have done by posting here is what the Catholics call going to confession. It's a time-proven fix; the first step in dealing with a mistake -- admitting it to yourself and the outside world. The next step is obtaining forgiveness. Whether your employer forgives you or not isn't important in the long run, which is how you have to look at this. Forgive yourself. That is critically important.

    First, admit you screwed up. Second, forgive yourself. You are not unique, and you have a lot of responsible actions and good works ahead of you. Third, learn from the consequences of your behavior never to repeat it. That is how all human beings learn. Fourth, execute the rest of your life. Start your job search. While you're looking, make yourself useful and volunteer. Your self-concept will repair itself and you will regain your confidence. After that, you're capable of one heck of a lot, part of which is getting a job you're really happy doing, so that you do it well. That will make you a very valuable employee and insulate you from ever being fired again.

    Now go out there and play like a champion, brother.
     
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  25. USArmyFinFan

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    well depending on where you live I maybe able to help you get a fresh start with a new job. PM me if you would like details
     
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  26. Jimmy James

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    So, how'd it work out, man?
     
  27. Arodgers12

    Arodgers12 Well-Known Member

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    Hope your doing well now Alex. Your a great guy. I don't like my job right now to be honest.
     
  28. Unlucky 13

    Unlucky 13 Just a Guy Club Member

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    It sucks man. We've all been young and made mistakes. I'm a big believer in always being honest. I know that you said that your job has a 1 and out policy, but as someone who was a manager and depended on people to be there with me for early shifts for more than a decade, I can tell you that I respected someone a whole lot more if they were honest about the one time they weren't there and promised that it wouldn't happen again.

    My personal worst was before I was in management, I once stayed out until 2am drinking before an 8am shift the next morning. I thought I was hung over the next morning, but after I got to work and started my job, I realized that I was actually probably still actually drunk. Thankfully no one noticed and life went on.
     
  29. Ohiophinphan

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    This is a two year bump. Alex you are still around aren't you? Could you fill us in on how things have gone?
     
  30. djphinfan

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    where the hell is alex..he hasnt been around in a long time...
     
  31. gunn34

    gunn34 I miss Don & Dan

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    We all hope he's doing well and we hear from him soon. He's one of our brothers. We have his back.
     
  32. Unlucky 13

    Unlucky 13 Just a Guy Club Member

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    Looks like he last posted back in April. Hope that he's ok too.
     

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