If people don't like you, **** 'em. Don't waste your time worrying about if somebody's looking down on you, it'll do nothing but piss you off. Spend time with those you consider your friends. People can be way too judgemental anyways. :smile:

 

When people act or respond negatively to you what do they say or do? Do they respond negatively to you before or after they meet you? Is the negativity expressed in words or body language or both? If you give a little more background to the situations you encounter we can try and help.

What works for me is that I really take very little personally. I usually just laugh at tantrums and cussing fits unless the situation is something I care about.

 

A situation like that I wouldn't even give a second thought. Who cares what a drug dealer in a bar thinks about you? Everyone I'd always going to have an opinion about you whether good or bad. Focus on the good. People who make a judgment about you without knowing you are simply ignorant and ignorance can't be controlled.

 

Why is there a need to be confrontational? The dude doesn't know you so who cares what he thinks.

 

i used to worry a lot about what other people thought, and i was miserable. until you learn not to care what other people think, outside of your love ones and people you care about, you probably will be miserable deep down as well.

 

Sounds like he's just looking for a reason to start ****
Best thing would be to not even get involved. Confronting him, even in a non-threatening way is just going to make his day, and I imagine that's not your intentions.

 

I'm in the 'I don't give a S%%%.' crowd. I've got enough to worry about in my life without worrying about what strangers think of me. If they like me, great. If not, so be it. I'm a nice guy, and I'm friendly to everyone as long as they are friendly to me.

 

i think the best way is to learn to laugh at yourself to be honest. Im a dumbass, I say stupid things all the time, but I say them because they make me laugh. I have a problem sometimes where I start to feel like an outcast, and I just have to blow it off. Theres always going to be haters in the world bro, you can't fight them all.

and whoever agrees with me that I'm a dumbass is going on my list, fyi.

 

I don't think you're a da lucky.


Do I stay off the list now??:wink2:

 

only because i ran out of room :tongue2:

 

I can walk into a new bar where I know no one, walk up to the bar, and strike up a conversation with anyone. That's just my personality. Most times, people will either talk to me, or they won't. If they do, great. If not, I move on or I just sit there and enjoy my drink.

unLucky is right too. You have to be able to laugh at yourself, and not take yourself so seriously. I will rag on myself in conversations with others. It lets them know that you are comfortable with yourself, and that goes a long way.

Self confidence is the key. You have to believe in yourself. Don't stress out over things you can't control. When I met my wife, she would stress over the smallest insignificant thing. Now, after being with me for 2 years,she is stressing much less, and she is much happier. It isn't easy though. You have to conciously make the choice to change something in your life, and stick with it.

 

Not giving a **** should be one of the easiest things to do, but in actuality it's difficult for alot of people.

A couple things that might make things easier for you: Smile...alot. Walking in somewhere with a smile makes it alot harder for people to be confrontational. Also, Body lanugauge is an underrated component to social interaction.

The thing about the dirty looks seems to be a matter of perception, IMO. What you perceive as a dirty look could be nothing.

One last thing, you shouldn't worry about "putting people in their place". When I was younger, I thought I needed to do this to everyone. Make a quip or one-liner that knocked them down. It's not worth it, so I just stick to doing it on Jetnation.com

 

I don't think anyone is really born that way, I know for me it was learned because when I was younger I constantly got in to the types of situations you described. Its really a question of whether you want to make the changes necessary to avoid being stuck in the same situations where it may lead to necessary drama.

 

Some really good advise in here.

 

I got over it by thinking that everything I do not like in another person is really something I do not like in myself. They are just shining a light on it with their actions. So when people do things that upset me I am more thankful due to the fact they have shown me an area of my life that I will now choose to work on.

 

this is true. laugh at your self. a lot of my friends and i now, constantly make fun of eachother. is fun as long as someone can take it. and if you cant, it would suck. luckily, we can all laugh at our selves and dont care what people really think. so its fun and games.

 

Agreed here. It's what I do, I go around smiling in school or even when I'm out with family or friends. I'll either make a joke on myself or others or say something stupid but it all works out well lol. Very few people dislike me from what I know unless someone lied to me. :lol:

Btw, :lol: @ the last line.

 

:hi5:


I would say just stop being sensitive about it and don't give a ****. You're def not the only person to notice the world is full of negativity. There's no point in dwelling on it.

 

Dude... you're such a dick...


:shifty: ;)

 

Only if you make it that way.

 

Enable the ignore function in your brain and use it. Were you picked on a lot growing up? Sounds like the seeds were planted long ago and you're still seeking payback in some sort. If that's the case it's probably time to let it go, move on and just worry about what you are able to somewhat control and use positive mental thoughts to counteract the bad thoughts. Start painting the world in a different light and it's just possible that the light shines brighter on yourself.

 

I think you should stop taking it so seriously. That's not going to help anything.

 

Sounds to me like you have a bit of social anxiety. Have you sought therapy?

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety

 

Seems to me that "used to have it" is it's still presently a problem. I'm no Dr. Phil, just laying out possibilities. You're seeking answers and I'm trying to help.

 

Yea. Obviously it's still an issue.

Dr. Phil is a douche and unless Phinnhedd is being paid millions for this (I hope you are man), then I wouldn't make the comparison.