My cousin Tommy loved the Dolphins...Was a season ticket holder...He was having financial, legal, and girlfriend troubles and he took his own life last night. He was 35. The last communication I had with him was 5 months ago and I had left him an angry voice mail. You see, he was notorious for never calling you back when you were trying to get a hold of him and in March I was coming over to Miami and wanted to see him. Naturally I left several messages before the trip and one final one after the trip. The last one was to tell him since he didn't even have the decency to return my calls, Then don't call me anymore. Now he won't ever call me again. It's sad and I feel a little guilty but please don't make this thread about me. What I would like to happen is for everyone to promise something. Promise that if there is someone you're mad at or someone you need to apologize to....promise that you will do it as soon as you can. You could never get the chance. Peace, Phin Fans....and RIP TomTom
I'm really sorry to hear that bro. That's a shame man, a complete shame. The later in life things get tough can make it harder to rebound from them. It's so much easier to think of how easy it will be to rebuild in your 20's rather than your late 30's. God Bless him. You can't feel to guilty on your comments. I mean you had every right to voice your frustration with him. I understand why you do though as I'd feel the same. Sorry for your family's loss.
Very sorry to hear about Tommy, infinsible. Truely a sad moment for your family and to hear about the struggles he went through. You raise a good point about being appreciative to even have an opportunity to say even a few words to someone, because its often forgot and sometimes regretted when its too late. Really makes you think about all the people connected in your personal life. Your story with your cousin will not be forgotten, it will serve as a good reminder to keep in touch, respond to the people you care about when your busy, to see how people are doing. Again sorry to hear about Tommy and your family's unfortunte loss. I hope you and your family stays strong, through this sad time.
I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I know that no words can relieve you of any pain and I wish that they could. My heart goes out to you and your family.
RIP. My girl's best friend had the same thing happen as well. This was with her father, two days before he passed. She was in a town an hour away and didn't get to his voicemails, before she got the one telling her the news. My condolences.
inFINS...sorry to hear that man. Having had a cousin who also killed himself and multiple friends as well, I know what you are going through. I hope wherever he is, he is at peace. Try to remember the good times. It comes more naturally over time.
RIP for your cousin my friend. That's sad, sad news. I hope you find some peace soon, to comfort your heart. I have been through this myself, and it took me a while to realize I needed to get over it, that nothing could change the way we left things, and I needed to move on as I was still the living one.
Sorry to hear about that. Its always tough to lose someone in the family. Thank you for sharing such a personal situation with everyone and already finding a positive in it. My condolences
That's really sad, sorry to hear it. My wife and I have a rule that no matter how mad we may be at the other,we never to go to bed mad, or without saying I love you. I had a good friend that I had known since I was 2 that did almost the exact same thing, under very similar circumstances. He moved to Denver, after saying he would die if he stayed in California. He moved to Denver and commited suicide 2 months later. Your pain is felt and understood more than you can ever know. Don't let guilt overpower you. We all do and say things we wish we could take back, but we must move forward. Remember the good times you had with your cousin, and let those memories overpower any feelings of guilt. Our sincerest sympathies to you and your family.
So terribly sorry for your loss, thank you for the reminder we all need to speak words of comfort and love to those who are important to us, we just never know if it will be the last thing we say or they hear from us. I always try to make the last thing my wife and daughter hear from me when we part is I love you, because sadly you just never know when an accident might happen and its the last thing they'll ever hear from you, so make it words of love. You will be in my prayers, along with your family.
It's a sad situation that happens all too often anymore. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, and in sticking with your wishes for this thread I promise to resolve more of my petty differences with the people in my life. Hopefully you can get some comfort in knowing that your situation can make positive changes in everyone else's lives here. Thank you for sharing this difficult time with us all.
Wow, I am going to spend the rest of the night (Lifetime) thinking of promises to make. Thanks for the inspiration brother....
Very sorry for your loss. A few years ago an 18 year old client of mine took her own life as well. I learned then to not only tell people how you feel about them, but to make the most of everyday. I know it sounds cliched, but it really takes something like this to make people look at their own lives and how they want their lives to be. RIP
Very sorry to hear that bro. Dont be too hard on yourself either, majority of people would of done the same in your situation.
Wow bro. I am sorry for your loss and I hope that your cousin will find the peace that escaped him during his brief life. I know you didn't want this thread to be about you but I have add this; There will always be a "would have...", "should have...", "could have..." in any reflection on a personal relationship. As such, there is always some element of regret. I have seen many suicides and, in my experience, people rarely take their life "because" of someone else. Rather, they take their life because they perceive there is no easier path. So, onto my promise. I promise to tell at least one person a day who I care for, that I care about them and today is your day. I love ya bro. If there is anything we can do, please don't hesitate to ask.
