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What do you do when your gf/wife is in a bad mood?

Discussion in 'Lounge' started by Bpk, Nov 24, 2011.

  1. Bpk

    Bpk Premium Member Luxury Box

    Crabby girlfriend is driving me nuts. She's *****y, stressed, ignoring me then demanding my attnetion alternately, etc

    Steering clear of her hasn;t worked as she gets resentful that I don;t want to spend time with her. Spending time results in her disrespecting me and/or starting arguments.

    So... I'm looking for a new approach.

    What do you guys do when your significant other is in a crabby, crappy mood?

    (Advice from successfully married men especially needed. lol.)
     
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  2. unluckyluciano

    unluckyluciano For My Hero JetsSuck

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    have you tried punching her?
     
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  3. Killerphins

    Killerphins The Finger

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    Don't whine for sex and keep her close.
    Works.....
     
  4. pennphinfan

    pennphinfan Stelin Canez Arcade Scorz

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    Buy crabs for dinner, eat them all. Then hire a lady of the night, get more crabs, and offer your girlfriend those. She'll stop bein so crabby.

    ... or just ask her what's wrong (something obviously bothering her), offer to listen and if she doesn't want to talk about it, ask her if she would prefer to have some personal time, and let her think it's her decision for you to steer clear, so she doesn't worry about you avoiding her.
     
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  5. Bpk

    Bpk Premium Member Luxury Box

    Not yet, though I'm working on my wind-up.
     
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  6. Bpk

    Bpk Premium Member Luxury Box

    lol. Thanks.
     
  7. Bpk

    Bpk Premium Member Luxury Box

    These are genius, devious solutions. Are you sure you're not a woman?

    I actually went and 'was there for her' by standing with her and looking in her eyes (kinda as per Killer's instructions). Eventually she told me she's anxious about seeing her family for Thanksgiving (shoulda guessed).

    Now I'm doing the 'giving her space' routine.

    Someone should program an entire computer program that can run these things as sub-routines based on "if" statements.
     
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  8. Sethdaddy8

    Sethdaddy8 Well-Known Member

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    You get used to it, thats what you do. Then you ask yourself, does she have enough value otherwise, to stick with her...or should you find someone else with different/better qualities, while anticipating the same level of irrational horse ****.

    thats. what. you. do.
     
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  9. McLovin

    McLovin Resident Pats fan.

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    i saw a woman in the mall the other day with a black eye and the first thing that came to mind was.. "well, she doesn't listen."
     
  10. Den54

    Den54 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    You live your life in quite desperation like the rest of us, knowing that you'll die of cancer from it or hopefully a massive coranary in the middle of the night.
     
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  11. baboo72

    baboo72 Bleeding aqua & orange

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    Go out or turn the volume on the TV up....however I've since learned that this doesn't help so I've taught myself to look as though I care and ask what's up and then sound as though I agree or sympathize until the point where my opinion is wanted and I tell her what she wants to hear.
     
  12. gunn34

    gunn34 I miss Don & Dan

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    I always remind my wife not to take out her frustrations on me. Remind her that I'm here to support her and not the cause of the incident. She does the same for me.
     
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  13. The_Dark_Knight

    The_Dark_Knight Defender of the Truth

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    I was going to try and think of a quip like some of the others did, but since you seem to be serious...

    When she gets like that, look at her....seriously, firmly, yet not belittling ask her, "what do you want?". Get her to get whatever's bugging her off her chest.

    One of the things my wife used to say to me sometimes when I came home after a bad day at work was something to the effect of, "yea, you may have had a bad day at work, but we didn't do anything to you. You leave that crap at work when you come home. I/we don't deserve to be treated like that"

    Lastly, remember that women are creatures of "feelings"...they feel everything. Alot of times, if your girlfriend is complaining about this that or the other...if you just listen (or do a damned good job of pretending to listen) and not offer solutions, she'll love you that much more.

    Been married for 24 years. Take it for what it's worth.

    If all else fails...get a Harley.
     
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  14. padre31

    padre31 Premium Member Luxury Box

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    Well BPK, what I've found is women sort of don't address what is bothering them when they get crabby, it is sort of "I have a headache" but the real problem is someone or something else is causing the problem like a coworker got the promotion they wanted, or a friend screwed them over for a reason you may not understand, and they don't think you will understand so they do not come out and say it, if you listen closely they sort of mention it in an abstract way.

    So just say "shut up, and make me a sammich"
     
  15. muscle979

    muscle979 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    Just explain to her that whatever problems she has cannot possibly be as bad as the stress and responsibilities that you bear every day because you're a man. Then tell her that she doesn't see you going around acting like a huge ***** to everyone. That should do the trick...
     
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  16. MikeHoncho

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    Don't put up with her ****, and don't lose your cool. You show her you're not okay with this situation implicitly...

    Have her "catch you" flirting or getting moderately close to another (preferably more attractive). She'll treat you like a king thereafter. This implication of other options is your best friend and she'll have learned a lesson.





    ...or you could punch her :confused2:
     
  17. Den54

    Den54 Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    Cook something for her. Perhaps a big bowl of Shuttie Stew.
     
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  18. Paul 13

    Paul 13 Chaotic Neutral & Unstable Genius Staff Member

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    does this happen once a month? Seriously, that is likely to be the root cause of all evilness that she is displaying towards you.

    If this is a serious relationship and it's not her period then you are going thru the "game/test" phase, where each side tests the other before committment. Once you get married and have kids all of that stuff goes away. Instead, you argue for five or ten minutes and then enjoy makeup sex that lasts for much shorter time than the arguement. And you forget what you were even arguing about.
     
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  19. Section126

    Section126 We are better than you. Luxury Box

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    Go out to a strip joint immediately, and spend alot of money.

    Take advantage of her being upset and double down. This will eat up her rage quota for the week.
     
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  20. Stringer Bell

    Stringer Bell Post Hard, Post Often Club Member

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    Masturbate and gamble.
     
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  21. MikeHoncho

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    ...you mean as opposed to "gamble and masturbate"?
     
  22. Paul 13

    Paul 13 Chaotic Neutral & Unstable Genius Staff Member

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    not necessarily in that order.
     
  23. Paul 13

    Paul 13 Chaotic Neutral & Unstable Genius Staff Member

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    or masturbate... gamble... gamble... masturbate....
     
  24. McLovin

    McLovin Resident Pats fan.

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    the correct term is fap.

    masturbate is so 2009.
     
  25. MikeHoncho

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    Always have the lucky lady blow on your bones before the next roll...
     
  26. Laces Out

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    Well, my wife is the anomaly among women, she isn't a needy, bipolar chick. We each have our own personal time, and we have together time. But when fights happen, I usually go play a game of NCAA and talk after I am done. Usually cooler heads prevail.

    However, in your situation, if I were in your shoes, I would be completely honest, sit her down and say cut the **** and tell me what's up. Lay out your side of things and give her opportunity to speak her piece. Stick to the facts, and don't throw anything back in her face. If you can't come to some agreement, it's time to part ways.

    If all else fails, stick it in her butt, chicks like that kind of thing....I kid... :wink2:

    Just remember, all women operate differently and there is zero rhyme or reason to it. Just remember, it is all about trying to find a tolerable amount of crazy
     
  27. SICK

    SICK Lounge Moderator

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    Jerk off publically, in the middle of the living room, no clothes around, just butt-naked, no tissues around either, no porn, no tv on, just keep your eyes real wide open, when she walks in, stare her in the eyes and finish.

    You're welcome.
     
  28. SICK

    SICK Lounge Moderator

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    Or just stop being such a ***** and tell her to make you a sammich.
     
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  29. Laces Out

    Laces Out Well-Known Member

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    So....did you kick her to the curb? Keep her around?
     
  30. Ohio Fanatic

    Ohio Fanatic Twuaddle or bust Club Member

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    I've been married 10 years (I'll ignore my first marriage which lasted 18 months). reinforcing what someone else mentioned. Sit her down and demand that she tell you what is bothering her so much.
    -if it's not about you, talking to you may help alleviate her grumpiness.
    -if it is about you, being a girl, she will hold it against you until you resolve it, but it won't happen until you get her to blurt it out.

    when my wife gets like that, I confront her. either tell me what the hell is bothering you or stop being so damn crabby.
    works every time. of course, sometimes you have to apologize for something even though it's not your fault. it's better than living with Queen Crab.
     
  31. AbideN703

    AbideN703 Yes, I'd hit it

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    Let one of us bang her. All will be better.
     
  32. MikeHoncho

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    No one of us is as good as all of us. Just saying.
     

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