"That moment when..."

"Unlucky 13 wrote:

Well, I spent most of my 20s alone, depressed, overworked and poor, so it wasnt the happiest time!

I met my wife when I was 27, we got married almost two years later, and started trying to have kids about two years after that. But we had a really hard time with both, and so I became a dad at 34 and 37. Those first two years married before i turned 30 were really good though!

There have been many times lately, as I chase around my 5 year old, that i wonder how much easier it would have been ten years earlier had it worked out that way, lol!

That's funny, the same thing happened to my best friend. He was married at 27 but they couldn't have kids. They did 4 rounds of the fertilization treatment and like 10 year later, twins arrived. I used to laugh because they wanted kids so badly and I kept saying, "Take mine! You can have them for the whole summer!"

I think it all works out as it was meant to be though....I sometimes wish I would have waited longer, but it's also nice to almost have an empty nest at 45 (my 18 year old isn't going off to college until next year). It was nice being young when they were little to run/play/etc, but I also didn't have the wisdom or patience back then that I have today. So I think it balances out either way....plus your kids probably have a much nicer home and a better lifestyle than mine did 18 years ago- more toys and gadgets, more beach/Disney trips, etc. I worked so much in my 20's to make ends meet, I barely saw the kids some weeks.

"KeyFin wrote:

That's funny, the same thing happened to my best friend. He was married at 27 but they couldn't have kids. They did 4 rounds of the fertilization treatment and like 10 year later, twins arrived. I used to laugh because they wanted kids so badly and I kept saying, "Take mine! You can have them for the whole summer!"

I think it all works out as it was meant to be though....I sometimes wish I would have waited longer, but it's also nice to almost have an empty nest at 45 (my 18 year old isn't going off to college until next year). It was nice being young when they were little to run/play/etc, but I also didn't have the wisdom or patience back then that I have today. So I think it balances out either way....plus your kids probably have a much nicer home and a better lifestyle than mine did 18 years ago- more toys and gadgets, more beach/Disney trips, etc. I worked so much in my 20's to make ends meet, I barely saw the kids some weeks.

Its true. I think I'm in a good middle ground. Old enough to have a nice home, stability, some wisdom, ect, but young enough to still go out and enjoy things and not be too old once my kids are grown. And I've spent the last five years as a stay at home dad after getting laid off a month before my younger daughter was born, so I've had a ton more time around them than a lot of other dads get to.

That moment when you're under the hood of your car doing a tune-up, blasting Led Zeppelin, and you turn around to see your 8 year old and 6 year old getting down and they then say, "Oh yeah dad, this is the music. You need to play this every time you pick us up from school!"

I've never been more proud! :pointlol:

(FYI, Led Zeppelin is the greatest band in the history of music...lol)

"Unlucky 13 wrote:

Its true. I think I'm in a good middle ground. Old enough to have a nice home, stability, some wisdom, ect, but young enough to still go out and enjoy things and not be too old once my kids are grown. And I've spent the last five years as a stay at home dad after getting laid off a month before my younger daughter was born, so I've had a ton more time around them than a lot of other dads get to.

I'm 45 now and my youngest will be 2 on the 21st of June. Which means I'll be 61 when he graduates from high school. My mom is only 64 and I graduated nearly 30 years ago! (c/o 1990... I graduated early at 16 due to starting school at 4 and skipping 3rd grade)

"danmarino wrote:

I'm 45 now and my youngest will be 2 on the 21st of June. Which means I'll be 61 when he graduates from high school. My mom is only 64 and I graduated nearly 30 years ago! (c/o 1990... I graduated early at 16 due to starting school at 4 and skipping 3rd grade)

Yeah, I'm the age now that my parents were when I was a junior in HS, and I just have the little ones.

That moment when you wake up at 7am feeling great.. You look over at your wife and comment how nice it was that baby finally slept through the night. The moment when your wife gives you the glare of death and informs you that you snored through wakeup cry's and feedings that took place at 2 and 4AM. Which means she woke up at 2AM. You promise to help out the next night only to sleep through it again!

"Bumrush wrote:

That moment when you wake up at 7am feeling great.. You look over at your wife and comment how nice it was that baby finally slept through the night. The moment when your wife gives you the glare of death and informs you that you snored through wakeup cry's and feedings that took place at 2 and 4AM. Which means she woke up at 2AM. You promise to help out the next night only to sleep through it again!

Ha! I've been there man. I sleep really, really hard and I'm difficult to wake up. My wife wakes up to a pin drop. There were times it was my turn to get the baby that she wasnt able to wake me up right away and just did it herself, and I got the flack in the morning.

That moment you realize, at 45, that you just don't care how ridiculous or expensive it is, you're going to buy a $200 lightsaber at Star Wars Galaxy's Edge when it opens at Hollwood Studios later this year.

"Fin D wrote:

That moment you realize, at 45, that you just don't care how ridiculous or expensive it is, you're going to buy a $200 lightsaber at Star Wars Galaxy's Edge when it opens at Hollwood Studios later this year.

I had a lightsaber fight with my daughter in Walmart last week, but not with the expensive ones :up:

"Fin D wrote:

That moment you realize, at 45, that you just don't care how ridiculous or expensive it is, you're going to buy a $200 lightsaber at Star Wars Galaxy's Edge when it opens at Hollwood Studios later this year.

LMAO! I'm bad to do that with mobile video games sometimes. I think to myself, "Hell yes I deserve this $12 upgrade to my character."

That moment when you look out of your bathroom window, and see a freaking bear. He was apparently enjoying the old pasta salad that my wife had thrown outside.

"Unlucky 13 wrote:

That moment when you look out of your bathroom window, and see a freaking bear. He was apparently enjoying the old pasta salad that my wife had thrown outside.

Wow...Did you call any wildlife services in your area? If he thinks there's food he may be coming around more often.

"danmarino wrote:

Wow...Did you call any wildlife services in your area? If he thinks there's food he may be coming around more often.

Wouldn't be a lot of point to it, unless he keeps coming back. The area where our house is has tons of forests and farmland around. I could call the sheriff, but unless the bear is right there when they show up, there's nothing that they can do. I'd seen bears several times while driving, and you see reports of them around people's houses from time to time, but I'd never had one at my own house before, let alone right up next to the porch. I'm guessing/hoping that it was a coincidence that he happened to be nearby when we threw out the food that we'd never thrown out before, because he devoured that and left anything else that was out there alone.

Usually they get into people's trash or bird feeders. I've never heard of one locally hurting a person or a pet. Just have to be careful. Where my parents live in WV, they not only have coyotes, but apparently a mountain lion as well. Those I don't want to mess with!

"Unlucky 13 wrote:

That moment when you look out of your bathroom window, and see a freaking bear. He was apparently enjoying the old pasta salad that my wife had thrown outside.

Been doing a lot more camping this summer, any recommendations for WV? I know the AT runs through Harper's Ferry but that trail is craggy as all hell and makes for a difficult overnighter.

"invid wrote:

Been doing a lot more camping this summer, any recommendations for WV? I know the AT runs through Harper's Ferry but that trail is craggy as all hell and makes for a difficult overnighter.

I'm pretty much the opposite of an outdoorsman and grew up in a different part of the state, but my dad frequently went hiking and backpacking in Seneca Rocks and Dolly Sods in the 80s and 90s.

"Unlucky 13 wrote:

That moment when you look out of your bathroom window, and see a freaking bear. He was apparently enjoying the old pasta salad that my wife had thrown outside.

He looks friendly- I probably would have been eaten alive trying to pet it.

"danmarino wrote:

That moment when you're under the hood of your car doing a tune-up, blasting Led Zeppelin, and you turn around to see your 8 year old and 6 year old getting down and they then say, "Oh yeah dad, this is the music. You need to play this every time you pick us up from school!"

I've never been more proud! :pointlol:

(FYI, Led Zeppelin is the greatest band in the history of music...lol)

Cool stuff. My kids were raised on classic rock. When they were very young they called The Immigrant Song "The Ahhh-Ah song". Lol...

I used to get home from work around 7:30pm and they'd crawl to me waiting for me to turn on the stereo so we could jam and they'd dance.

My youngest is now 17 and currently a walking encyclopedia on Pink Floyd and plays various guitar rifts of their's almost daily. The look of disdain or open disgust on her face when some other kid either doesn't know who they are, or worst, tries to argue with her about them or some other 70s rock band or songs, is priceless.

She's been offered a music scholarship to USM to sing with their choir. She doesn't want to sing tho, only play guitar. SMH.

Another of my daughters is a Johnny Cash fanatic. Music, tshirts, posters.

Her favorite tshirt:

"danmarino wrote:

I'm 45 now and my youngest will be 2 on the 21st of June. Which means I'll be 61 when he graduates from high school. My mom is only 64 and I graduated nearly 30 years ago! (c/o 1990... I graduated early at 16 due to starting school at 4 and skipping 3rd grade)

My fourth child finished HS last month and I turn 50 next month.

My Dad was 27 when he had me in 1969, and I was 27 when my son was born.

My oldest daughter graduates AF BMT the weekend of 50th Birthday next month.

She'll be joining my son in the USAF.

:up:

"Unlucky 13 wrote:

Wouldn't be a lot of point to it, unless he keeps coming back. The area where our house is has tons of forests and farmland around. I could call the sheriff, but unless the bear is right there when they show up, there's nothing that they can do. I'd seen bears several times while driving, and you see reports of them around people's houses from time to time, but I'd never had one at my own house before, let alone right up next to the porch. I'm guessing/hoping that it was a coincidence that he happened to be nearby when we threw out the food that we'd never thrown out before, because he devoured that and left anything else that was out there alone.

Usually they get into people's trash or bird feeders. I've never heard of one locally hurting a person or a pet. Just have to be careful. Where my parents live in WV, they not only have coyotes, but apparently a mountain lion as well. Those I don't want to mess with!

Could make a nice rug or wall hanging over the fireplace.

Davy Crockett "kilt a bar" when he was only 3. You're behind the times. Lol...

I have deer that come into my back yard and eat my damn blueberries off the bushes. I have to scare them and the crows off. They killed my muscadine vines a few years ago.

I also have a fox that lives on the back acre next to the lake. I sometimes throw leftover food out for him. He's pretty cool to have around.

"cuchulainn wrote:

Could make a nice rug or wall hanging over the fireplace.

Davy Crockett "kilt a bar" when he was only 3. You're behind the times. Lol...

I have deer that come into my back yard and eat my damn blueberries off the bushes. I have to scare them and the crows off. They killed my muscadine vines a few years ago.

I also have a fox that lives on the back acre next to the lake. I sometimes throw leftover food out for him. He's pretty cool to have around.

We have tons of deer, and of course the usual small animals like squirrels, possums, raccoons, ect. But the bear was a first.

"Unlucky 13 wrote:

We have tons of deer, and of course the usual small animals like squirrels, possums, raccoons, ect. But the bear was a first.

Right. Have all those too.

You should see the look on my face when I get up in the mornings and damned armadillo has been rooting up my yard after bugs and worms.

I plot sitting out in the dark with my compound bow like Rambo waiting to kill those lil bastids.

"cuchulainn wrote:

Cool stuff. My kids were raised on classic rock. When they were very young they called The Immigrant Song "The Ahhh-Ah song". Lol...

I used to get home from work around 7:30pm and they'd crawl to me waiting for me to turn on the stereo so we could jam and they'd dance.

My youngest is now 17 and currently a walking encyclopedia on Pink Floyd and plays various guitar rifts of their's almost daily. The look of disdain or open disgust on her face when some other kid either doesn't know who they are, or worst, tries to argue with her about them or some other 70s rock band or songs, is priceless.

She's been offered a music scholarship to USM to sing with their choir. She doesn't want to sing tho, only play guitar. SMH.

Another of my daughters is a Johnny Cash fanatic. Music, tshirts, posters.

Her favorite tshirt:

Raising them right! It doesn't get any better than Pink Floyd, Cash, and Zeppelin. About a year ago I played Cash's cover of "Hurt" for my girls...My then 5 year old shed tears...That littler girl has a heart of gold and feels like no one I've ever met, but that's the only song to date that she's ever "felt". She's a keeper. ;)

"cuchulainn wrote:

Right. Have all those too.

You should see the look on my face when I get up in the mornings and damned armadillo has been rooting up my yard after bugs and worms.

I plot sitting out in the dark with my compound bow like Rambo waiting to kill those lil bastids.

LOL, I'd never thought of them as pests until a friend of mine moved to Texas and said the same thing.

"danmarino wrote:

Raising them right! It doesn't get any better than Pink Floyd, Cash, and Zeppelin. About a year ago I played Cash's cover of "Hurt" for my girls...My then 5 year old shed tears...That littler girl has a heart of gold and feels like no one I've ever met, but that's the only song to date that she's ever "felt". She's a keeper. ;)

I’m all about raising my daughter to love The Doors, Pink Floyd and all classic rock / grunge.

My only concern would be the LSD associated with some of that music :)

"Bumrush wrote:

I’m all about raising my daughter to love The Doors, Pink Floyd and all classic rock / grunge.

My only concern would be the LSD associated with some of that music :)

I've been a big Pink Floyd fan for nearly 30 years, and I've never once done drugs! Or even smoked!