I Never "Do" New Years. However, I'm So Angry. I Have To.

Damn, dude. :pity:

If you need to talk to someone, I'll be happy to listen.

Sorry to hear of your troubles, buddy. But if it makes you strive to be better than you'll be alright.

As for the girl, I've come to believe that making the right choice there is one of the most important life decisions you'll ever make. And frankly at 19 you don't have enough experience to make that decision. So add this heartbreak to your experience and it will help you down the line.

I'd like to say that you won't get played again, but odds are you will. The key is letting it make you smarter while not letting it make you bitter. You're a guy who doesn't hate, so keep being that guy. Just a smarter, more experienced version of him.

Good luck to you-you sound like you have the perfect plan.

some chicks are evil, man.

Do yourself a favor and print that rant and stick it somewhere where you see it everyday. That way you are reminded of your goal. Otherwise, the hate eventually evaporates and it becomes all too easy to get lax on what your goals are.

Sorry to hear that about the girl. The lesson to be learned here is that...they are call crazy. Every single last ****ing one of them. Even the ones that swear they aren't (as a counterpoint, every guy is a creep on some level, we just are). The key is to find one that you can tolerate.

But bad breakups are a good thing usually. Yes, they suck, but you learn and grow from them. Sounds like you got yours out of the way early...kudos.

Now go drink your balls off, swear off that chick for eternity and start working on your goals...january 2nd.

Alex, you got a raw deal.

But your young and the right woman will come. Keep your head up and keep being the good person that you are!

Happy New year to you and may it be great!

Sometimes you need to see how bad it can be before you realize how good YOU can be.

Thanks for the support.

Sadly I work tomorrow, but I'm going to make it a good day. My coworkers are my friends...maybe I'll buy them lunch or something to make sure we have a great new year right off the bat.

My anger is already just turning into something positive. In my life I've always just gotten depressed, but now I feel something different. The right girl will come...it wasnt her. I made a huge mistake judging her character. Next time, I'll try and make a better decision.

sorry to hear this man. let her change you not in your hopes for finding love, but in who you give that love and admiration too. Don't let your anger kill your desire to find love, and your ability to give it out to people.
Glad to see you are taking this well and are going to turn it into a positive. Have fun being single, and if you need someone to talk to , holla at your boy! Happy new year man.

So she conned you? What a bitch.

Sad thing is, I kind of saw it all coming. I just wanted to lie to myself and pretend I was just crazy or paranoid.

It's like I'm always one step ahead, but I make sure to believe I'm a step behind.

"Alex44 wrote:

Sad thing is, I kind of saw it all coming. I just wanted to lie to myself and pretend I was just crazy or paranoid.

It's like I'm always one step ahead, but I make sure to believe I'm a step behind.

So youre a naive 19 year old....welcome to the real world dude. Some people are self serving idiots and some people are unselfish. 15 years from now when she (God forbid) has a husband that smacks her she will realize what an idiot she was for crapping all over a good guy like yourself. Looks fade, personality may change through the years, character reveals who youre dealing with as cliche as it sounds. Get to know someone's core values before making such snap decisions based on looks and "the click". Dont change who you are just because some chick played you.

Best of luck bro and keep your head up. :wink2:

Bro, I'm sorry. No one deserves that.

On the other hand, it happens to nearly all of us. That's just how it is.

You're on the right path; let this teach you something. It's the right thing to do now. The resolve you carry forward from this will serve you all of your many years.

One thing to always remember, though, as a strict rule of thumb: people with substance abuse issues are ALWAYS a bad risk; unfortunately, people with mental issues who don't address them are number 1A on that list.

Last thing: be strong. She's going to come back to you - takers always do. Don't let her back in, whatever you do.

Alex, I have "known" you for a long time and there has not been a moment that I was not impressed by you. Bro, at one time, you were posting 28,000 post a week. :) THAT is impressive.

On a serious note: You can not control the level of "ass-ness" that is exuded by the people you give your heart to but you can win by moving on and growing to be a better person with each day. She wins if you "die" because she left you but you win if you become a person that she later regrets leaving.

My young brother, YOU are that sort of person.

Brother I feel for you. The pain that you are feeling now will make you a better and stronger person for it. :yes: I felt the same way when I came back from Saudia Arabia from Desert Storm, and my first wife, my high school sweetheart said I want out one night when we went to bed. I know your chin is where mine and many others have been. This is indeed a blessing that it happened now, and not when you were married. Yes it is a big downer now, but it is time to move on, and know in your heart that you will be better for it. Just because you were taken advantage of here doesn't mean there isn't a great woman out there for you. Keep the faith! Must keep your chin up, and as each day passes you will be better. If you need to talk shoot me a pm and I will give you my cell, and home number brother.:wink2: May 2010 be an awesome year for you bro.:hi5:

I too would remind myself of those words everyday, this is your motivation to do whatever you want to do or need to do, to be happy in life. Stay focused on the goals you have, thirty-years old comes VERY quick.....the time is now.

Sucks dude. Sorry to hear.

I'm reminded of the line from Cheers where Norm says "women...you can't live with the. Pass the beer nuts." Kinda says it all. Know what I mean?

In all seriousness, try not to let this harden your heart. It's cool if you want to use it as motivation to be a better person, but try not to let it change you are deep down inside. Fact is, if you keep your heart open, you'll be rewarded much more than you will be hurt in life. I know you don't know me from Adam, but trust me on this.

Hope 2010 is much better to you.

Now, go out and find yourself a hot new babe, and bring in the new year right! I mean it. Like...now. Tonight. Go!

drank a few so be forewarned.

i'm only 24 years of age yet a year and a few months ago i thought i had my life wrapped up in a nice little bundle. come to find out that "out of the blue" i'm no longer worthy of "being in a relationship" with. this is not what she said, but how I took it.

most of the people here know my story. her and I are friends. it was just not meant to be as a relationship.

don't let someone who you think may be your final love drag you down. i consider myself fairly young. I've had my share of disappointments, heartache, and troubles.. some of which i consider unusual and that the normal "joe" wouldn't have, but that doesn't stop me from believing that I am good enough, strong enough, or compassionate enough to handle my own day to day business AND catch that amazing person left out in the sea. and yes i do believe they are out there. i am 0 for "x" in relationships lasting, yet I still believe.

a lot of times i consider myself negative. i'm usually lost within a sea of chaos, which is why i tend to gravitate towards peaceful spirituality and am of the path of "least resistance" as much as I can muster. yes i have a lot of underlying anger and resentment for what has happened to me and what i have been through with some people, but should that tarnish what I can be?

absolutely not.

there is fight in you, but only if you want it. you have to want your life to be better, to be different. it is not a matter of what you CAN do but what you're willing TO do.

figure out what you want your life to be. it's not easy all the time, and it's not fun. but it IS highly rewarding and worth the effort once you figure it out.

i have but a few stones on this path and i am all but grateful that i can call those stones home. a bedrock to land on when i feel uneasy. they are not many, but they are what i know.

best of luck.

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happy new years bro, and may this decade be better than the last.

"Alex44 wrote:

I just found out the girl I've given everything to for the last six months, has been playing me like a fool lately. For at least a month. Let me explain this.

She's bipolar. I paid for her medication. I supported her, I gave her gifts, paid for her food, did everything. When her best friend died I was there. Her dad beat the hell out of her, I was there. No matter what happened to her, I was there for her.

I dedicated my entire life to her. I wanted to marry her, have kids the whole deal. She agreed she wanted all this stuff too. She was my everything, everything I did was for her future. Every single part of my life was given to her.

Today she sends me a pic of her kissing another guy. Says "**** you, bye" and goes on about how I'm a liar and all this stuff. The person I gave everything to, I come to find out, has been taking and taking everything from me just so she could crush me.

Well honestly, a part of me died tonight. Yet somehow, I think it was a part I want gone anyway. It was my innocence and naivety. So my New Years resolution is a simple one.

I'm sitting here as a sack of potential right now. I've done nothing with my life, yet I'm capable of so much. I'm filled with so much anger right now...which scares me because I'm not an angry person. I don't hate. I just don't. Yet tonight....I feel like part of me is gone that will never ever be back. My goal for the new year, is to become a new person.

I WILL be successful and do more than anyone ever thought was possible. The sky is the limit. From now on I play for myself, I play to win. I'm playing to make the whole world a better place, I'm playing to make myself happy. Everything I do now is 200% effort. Every part of my day is going to be used in order for me to become happy, for my success.

I'll use tonight to be sad...angry...when the clock hits midnight...I'm a new person.

/endrant

Awesome post for a few reasons.....

1. You are obviously driven.....I know this feeling as well and am happy to see it lit up inside another human being. Good luck to you brother..i hope you rock the world.

2. At first I cringed at your intensity....and thought that it could be for the wrong reasons...but you addressed that at the end. You want to make something great out of yourself and most of all to make the world a better place...we should all strive to do that, and I hope that you accomplish it. As long as that is where your drive is coming from I know you'll be fine.

Love sucks some times, you're now aware of that. I'm sorry that it's a lesson that you had to learn...but you'll be the better for it. Look to yourself for happiness....the girl will come along with it.

"daphins wrote:

Awesome post for a few reasons.....

1. You are obviously driven.....I know this feeling as well and am happy to see it lit up inside another human being. Good luck to you brother..i hope you rock the world.

2. At first I cringed at your intensity....and thought that it could be for the wrong reasons...but you addressed that at the end. You want to make something great out of yourself and most of all to make the world a better place...we should all strive to do that, and I hope that you accomplish it. As long as that is where your drive is coming from I know you'll be fine.

Love sucks some times, you're now aware of that. I'm sorry that it's a lesson that you had to learn...but you'll be the better for it. Look to yourself for happiness....the girl will come along with it.

When I started writing I was still very angry. But by the time I was finishing up...I started to feel more...sad I guess. Reading it, that was pretty intense :lol:

I've always been on and off with motivation, but I think this is one of those days you look back on as being very important later in life.

This is one of the situation where I can't really say anything because it's already been said here. This place really is like a family. Alex, you have everything you need to be successful, and I know you will be. Remember to keep your head up, keep moving forward, and build on the positives. This will only make you a better person.

Happy New Year, buddy.

Very sorry to hear, bro. Just keep up your current attitude and you'll be on the right track. You've always struck me as a pretty determined guy so I think you'll be fine. Happy New Year, dude.

Good luck man. Ive been there. Your friends and family will get you through it.
just learn from it.

Sorry I hate to be blunt but your ****IN 19yrs old. Stop being a ***** and i hope you become more of man after this. Im sorry if I sound mean but damn all these young adult sound like wusses in today age. Stop being in relationship and stop being in love your only 19 you dont even know what you really want. Hence why that young whore cheated on you. Why because we are all whore during that age. Wait till your upper 20's before thinking of getting serious. You'll understand when you're older I hope.

"Finsanity wrote:

Sorry I hate to be blunt but your ****IN 19yrs old. Stop being a ***** and i hope you become more of man after this. Im sorry if I sound mean but damn all these young adult sound like wusses in today age. Stop being in relationship and stop being in love your only 19 you dont even know what you really want. Hence why that young whore cheated on you. Why because we are all whore during that age. Wait till your upper 20's before thinking of getting serious. You'll understand when you're older I hope.

the brutal truth :lol: